Submissive's Bill of Rights

I would like to move away from the love letter to Myself that is this blog briefly to address a serious issue: consent

Too many times I hear horror stories of submissive men and women being subjected to nonconsensual abuse, simply because they believe that the adage "the Dominant is always right" is some kind of grandiose golden commandment of BDSM. A most recent story I heard involves a submissive boy being ordered to not speak in any capacity about his relationship with his Femdom to anyone else in the scene. When he protested, she answered simply that her word is law. I don't know about you, but that strikes up a major red flag for Me. Abuse often starts with the isolation of the victim. Needless to say, he is no longer in service to her, and I hope he has learned a valuable lesson.

I am going to say this yet again: the power behind BDSM lies in the fact that all activities are performed under consent. Anything else is abuse. If you truly believe that submissives have no rights, GO HOME. You lack the intellectual maturity to play this game.

A while ago, I stumbled across a document called "The boy's Bill of Rights." It perfectly encompassed what I felt about this issue, but it was very homo-centric. Contrary to popular belief, I rank between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey scale (meaning that I am predominantly homosexual, but not exclusively so), and felt that these points could benefit from a tad bit of gender neutrality.

And so, here is My revised version, the submissive's Bill of Rights. Dominants are encouraged to post this to tell subs that They care about their rights, and subs are equally encouraged, to show others that they have no tolerance for abuse.

1. Every submissive has the right to have their body, intellect, and emotions protected by their Dominant.
2. Every submissive has the right to choose the Dominant whom they serve and to discontinue that service and take their leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every submissive has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in their submission.
4. Every submissive has the right to protected sex if they so wish.
5. Every submissive has the right to privacy if they so wish.  No submissive can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without their expressed desire to be so.
6. Every submissive has the right to defend themselves from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every submissive has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every submissive has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other submissives and Dominants without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every submissive has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every submissive has the right to protect their own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

Another review!

The heat has been awful, ne? I've been keeping cool and out of the sun by mercilessly beating a new arrival to kink and to My own inner circle, Stitch. He is quite fun, I must confess. Such masochism! Such range! It makes My sadistic little black heart smile. And he wrote Me a review:

Sir Brian is one of those rare people who brings His craft to the level of art. He is a professional in every sense of the word, from his spoken word to the deliberate manner in which He will set His implements on the table while you await the fate He has in store for you. Prior to meeting Sir Brian, I had only engaged in casual exploration of BDSM, but Sir Brian patiently and expertly introduced me to the many sensory experiences that were awaiting me in His world. He is true to His word: He will respect your limits and tolerances, while expertly pushing the boundary just far enough to make each experience unforgettable. In His skilled hands, you will feel dualities of emotion beyond what you thought possible: agony and ecstasy, pain and pleasure, fear and comfort,all enveloped in a euphoria that will overtake your body in new and unexpected ways. I hesitated for some time before initiating my first scene with Him, and it is those lost hours due to my own fear and vacillating that comprise my only regret.

Isn't that nice? Somebody earned themselves more savage beatings!

It's back on, fuckers!

I'm sorry. I can't help Myself. I had to come back. I couldn't leave you all without My annoyingly verbose updates. How would you survive? *wink*

Things are very slowly returning to normalcy. Thanks to all of the people who have reached out to Me in support of this nutty period of My life. I should be back to normal operating status by the end of the month! I'm still not taking same-day in-calls to the dungeon, but I will take 24h advance notice for them. Meanwhile, My out-calls remain available on a same-day notice.

First things first, thank you to everyone who showed to My Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex class, as well as My all-day demos for InsideOut Old City. Mega-thanks to My amazing demo bottom, suspension bunny, and amazing PR goddess, Marthamatic, as well as to anyone who came out for this fun day! Here are some delightful pictures to entertain you!

 

 

No wonder I get branded as the "rope guy" everywhere I go. If there are ever too many pictures of Me doing something, it's probably suspending people. I can't help it!

I am also blessed to have some wonderful friends and play partners who always keep a smile on My face when I am down. It is thanks to them that I have not lost My smile.

In fact, I just recently received a visit from My friends Kara, Nevaahe, and Stark. We have not seen each other since 2006, and seeing them was an amazing experience. It's true that we make few friends in our short time on this Earth. I am happy to count these three among Mine. Sadly, a picture is not the best thing I could put up, seeing how I'd have to blur all faces due to sensitive vanilla-related issues. Still find it quite funny that we were friends back when we were 13-14, and now we're all kinky, and still friends. Great minds think alike!

I also have to thank Katts, who lets Me beat him mercilessly at Asylum 13 every week (except for last night, which made Me sad faced... more on that later), an activity which brings Me an immense amount of psychological well-being. Some three weeks ago, the wonderful Rhino Photography, lead photographer of the event, took some truly amazing shots of a shared scene with Gabriel Drax. Here are a few of My favorites:

I'm not sure Katts knows how grateful I am to him and his girlfriend for letting Me do all this with him. As I have mentioned, we were in the process of negotiating some video work a while back, and I am happy to say that I indeed will be filming with him, hopefully two or three scenes by the end of the month. So yay! I need to remember to control My play though. I get a little overenthusiastic sometimes, which is exactly why his girlfriend punished him and didn't let him play with Me this week. What can I say, I got a little out of hand last week:

See that face? That's masochistic ecstasy, right there.I had a stupid grin on My face for at least five days. And he had a nasty scratch on his stomach, courtesy of My bear claws. And apparently, the crucifix scratch in his chest just faded a couple of days ago. Whoopsy tootsy!

So I was going to have a little more fun last night, but then he informed Me (very cutely, may I add) that his girlfriend was a bit miffed at how hard I went on him last week, and didn't want us playing this week. That's more of a punishment on Me, dammit!

Add to the fact that I was supposed to see a visitor last night (the awesome plan involved Me locking up his cock, chaining him to the bed leg, and then sleeping in said bed while he remained on the floor), but he ended up falling asleep before I got there... and no play for Me. So I have been a bit out of My mind all day with sadistic ideas and generally kinky thoughts...

...which lead Me to consider running a nantaimori night sometime soon. Who doesn't enjoy naked men? Who doesn't enjoy sushi? Obviously, the combination of these two things would be quite perfect. I am not too shabby at sushi preparation, and this would be a lovely chance for Me to run a dinner-style event Myself, an idea which I've been toying with. And did I mention the naked men?

I already have lofty, unrealistic plans, so I guess things are working out after all. Stay tuned. Oh, and I'll be at The Aviary, tomorrow night. See you there, fellow kinksters!

The Part You Throw Away

Apologies to those of you who have been worried. My life has gone completely upside down in the past week or so.

I pondered how to write something that would be clear, concise, and express exactly what I feel while protecting Me and Mine. I have not come up with a proper way of doing so.

In the past week, I have been physically assaulted as well as extorted  for over $1700 by My psychotic ex-roommate. Now, fairly, I did owe him some $850. However, the OTHER $850 come from the inability of this individual to take no for an answer.

I admit it, I stuck My dick in crazy. Funny, isn't it? I champion not sticking your dick in psychos, yet that is exactly what I did. And when I told psycho that I was not interested in him in a romantic sense, that's when shit started going down.

It all started with a phone call last Saturday, when attending a private event. Truly, the discomfort had started earlier in the week, but that's when I was faced with an ultimatum. One that I was fine with, but that forced Me to put a deadline down on monies owed. I was confident that I could come to an agreement with this crazy motherfucker. Turns out that when things got physical between us and he threatened My livelihood, as well as the life of one of My play partners and My One, I knew I had to leave, even if I didn't have an immediate place to go.

And that´s what I did. The entire situation was not only becoming psychologically and physically dangerous, but was simply getting worse by the second. I left without knowing where I would sleep that night. So right now, I am in an extremely twisted situation. I am still taking sessions, although not same-day appointments until further notice. Additionally, I will not be updating this blog or My profiles much in the next couple of weeks, perhaps even a month. I have given My website an update, including the events I will be attending, as well as My seasonal specials, but that will likely be how it remains for the rest of the month.

I will be doing bondage demos all day on July 6th, during Old City District's Inside Out. Come enjoy yourself throughout the day, and then join Me at 4:30 PM for a mini workshop: Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex. I will also be be joined by Echo, of EchosFire.com, who will be doing fire massage demonstrations. He will also be running his own workshop, "Art of the Fire Massage" at 7 PM.

Be sure to stop by and make Me smile, I need it.

Here are a few pointers to close things off:

1.) Don't stick your dick in crazy, much less codependent, drug-addicted crazy.
2.) When offered things of any sort, refuse them. Before you know it, you're running a tab you were unaware of.
3.) Don't stick your dick in crazy.
4.) Remember Micah 7:5 - Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.
5.) Don't stick your dick in crazy.
6.) Never forget when your loved ones are threatened. When they are, keep that close to your heart, even if your vengeance takes years to exact. Nobody touches what is Mine and gets away with it. Not for long, anyway. Tee hee!
7.) Don´t stick your dick in crazy.
8.) When the person you live with calls you an amoral sociopathic heathen, it's time to go. If they've told you that they are sending friends to drive-by your home every hour, you are too late.
9.) Don't stick your dick in crazy!!

And because no post is complete without at least a pretty picture, here is one of a recent Asylum 13. The handsome young man on the right is Echo, in fact. As of late, he's been coming to events with Me and offering his service (since I'm usually running around like a headless chicken). If you see us out together, be sure to chat him up about his excellent fire massage services! Seriously, the fellow is talented.

PS: Regarding My situation, anyone who asks Me face to face will be provided with full description and stats if they wish, to avoid the crazy fucker I just left. Trust Me, it's way easier to fall for his bullshit than you'd think. I'm the second person he's done this to in the past couple months. The first had to file a police report, and from what I understand, still does not have her property back.