Submissive's Bill of Rights

I would like to move away from the love letter to Myself that is this blog briefly to address a serious issue: consent

Too many times I hear horror stories of submissive men and women being subjected to nonconsensual abuse, simply because they believe that the adage "the Dominant is always right" is some kind of grandiose golden commandment of BDSM. A most recent story I heard involves a submissive boy being ordered to not speak in any capacity about his relationship with his Femdom to anyone else in the scene. When he protested, she answered simply that her word is law. I don't know about you, but that strikes up a major red flag for Me. Abuse often starts with the isolation of the victim. Needless to say, he is no longer in service to her, and I hope he has learned a valuable lesson.

I am going to say this yet again: the power behind BDSM lies in the fact that all activities are performed under consent. Anything else is abuse. If you truly believe that submissives have no rights, GO HOME. You lack the intellectual maturity to play this game.

A while ago, I stumbled across a document called "The boy's Bill of Rights." It perfectly encompassed what I felt about this issue, but it was very homo-centric. Contrary to popular belief, I rank between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey scale (meaning that I am predominantly homosexual, but not exclusively so), and felt that these points could benefit from a tad bit of gender neutrality.

And so, here is My revised version, the submissive's Bill of Rights. Dominants are encouraged to post this to tell subs that They care about their rights, and subs are equally encouraged, to show others that they have no tolerance for abuse.

1. Every submissive has the right to have their body, intellect, and emotions protected by their Dominant.
2. Every submissive has the right to choose the Dominant whom they serve and to discontinue that service and take their leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every submissive has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in their submission.
4. Every submissive has the right to protected sex if they so wish.
5. Every submissive has the right to privacy if they so wish.  No submissive can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without their expressed desire to be so.
6. Every submissive has the right to defend themselves from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every submissive has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every submissive has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other submissives and Dominants without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every submissive has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every submissive has the right to protect their own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

Une erreur de jugement...

Here's a little video of someone who did not do quite as told. Originally, I suppose it was just meant for Me, but as usual, if things are not to My standard, I do not take kindly to them. I have attached a note to the lazy slut in question, so do scroll down to read the English version!



ORIGINAL FRENCH MESSAGE :
(scroll down for English)

Mon cher Mika,

        Quand je te donne un ordre, tu le suis. Quand tu m'a contacté, il y a certain temps, en me suppliant pour mon contrôle, je t'avais prévenu que je demande un niveau d'excellence. Je t'ai dit que les conséquences seraient désastreuses si tes performances etaient moins que stellaire, et que je n'avais pas de probleme a montrer au monde à quel point ta dépravité arrive si je te trouvai le moins déplaisant.

        Tu sais que j'ai eu des problèmes avec mon ordinateur récement, et que j'ai été un peu absent dans mes messages. Cependant, ne penses jamais que je ne prendrai pas du temps pour remettre quelqu'un à sa place. Ainsi, considére ceci comme un avertissement. Quand tu m'as demandé ce que je désirais de toi, tes instructions étaient claires: je trouve qu'il y ait quelque chose de primal dans la peur de l'exposition et le sexe en publique, et j'ai donc demandé que tu aille faire un petit tour en bagnole et que tu te branles pour moi. Un garçon intelligent et diligent aurait fait tentative de m'impressionner, au lieu de m'envoyer ce que je peux seulement appeler ennuyeux, générique, et sans intérêt. Allons, petite pédale, ne devrais-tu pas au moins présenter un bite dure pour Sire?

        Donc, en guise de punition pour ton absence totale d'effort, j'ai pris la liberté de télécharger la vidéo sur un serveur porno publique, de sorte que d'autres puissent voir exactement ce que j'ai trouvé si décevant. Tu sais bien que je tien beaucoup d'informations sur toi, et que ta position sensible dans ta vie professionnelle peut prendre un coup très dur si tu ne fait pas mieux.

        En dernier, permet-moi de répéter les ordres qui ont été donnés, afin que nous évitions tout désagrément qui pourrait surgir dans l'avenir. Tu doit faire parvenir une vidéo de branle en public par semaine, chaque foi dans un nouvelle endroit. Tu auras soit un plug, ou un beau gode avec lequel tu travailleras ton cul, et tu me parleras et révéleras tous tes fantasmes pendant que tu le fait. Tu jouiras, et tu me remerciras de t'avoir permis de faire, et de t'avoir permis de partager avec moi.

        Effectues à mon goût, et cet article pourai disparaître dans le passé. Tiens, se tu te comporte admirablement et me donnes un bon petit show, je peut même supprimer cette vidéo entierement. Effectues mal, et je vais devoir révéler un peu plus sur toi à chaque fois. Ne t'inquiétez pas, je suis sûr que tu feras bien a la prochaine. Echoues, et nous devront commencer à discuter d'autres moyens pour me garder satisfaits tout en gardant tes informations privées en dehors de l'oeil du public.

Cordialement,

                -Sire Brian

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ENGLISH TRANSLATION:

My dear Mika,

        When I give you an order, you follow it. When you contacted Me a while back, begging for My control, I warned you I have a standard of excellence. I told you that the consequences would be dire if your performances were less than stellar, and that I had no issue showing to the world just how depraved you are if I found you in the least displeasing.

        You know I have had trouble with My computer as of late, and I have been somewhat absent from My postings. However, never think that I will not take extra time to put someone in their place. So you can consider this to be your warning. When you asked Me what I desired from you, your instructions were clear: I find there to be something primal about fear of exposure and public performance, and so I demanded you take a little drive and jerk off for Me. A clever and dilligent boy would have made an attempt to impress Me, as opposed to sending Me what I can only call boring, generic, and unexciting. Come on, queer boy, shouldn't you at least present yourself hard for Sir?

        And so, as punishment for your complete lack of effort, I have taken the liberty to upload the video to a public porn server, so that others may see exactly what I found so disappointing in you. You are well aware that I hold a lot more information on you, and that your sensitive professional position and life stand to take a very large blow if you don't step up your game.

        Finally, let Me repeat the orders that were given to you, so we avoid any unpleasantness that may arise in the future. You are to send Me one public masturbation video per week, each time varying your location. You will either be plugged or working your ass with a dildo, and you are to speak to Me and reveal your fantasies as you do so. You will cum, and you will thank Me for allowing you to to so, and for allowing you to share.

        Perform to My liking, and this post will fade away into the past. Hell, perform admirably, and I may even remove this video altogether. Perform poorly, and I will have to reveal a bit more about you each time. Do not worry, I am sure you will do fine on your next try. Fail Me, and we may have to begin discussing others ways to keep Me satisfied while keeping your information out of the public eye.

Regards,

                -Sir Brian

Let's get personal...

Wow.

Reality just slapped Me in the face for a second and I was humbled by My ignorance.

What a fascinating feeling. It's quite motivating, really. Makes one wants to fill one's vacuous head with knowledge, you see.

Hm. We'll see where all that goes.

Ah well. Session tomorrow. That's going to be quite interesting as well...