I am Sir Brian, professional and lifestyle Dominant in Philadelphia, PA. Welcome to Wicket Wanderlust II, where you can find sessions stories, video previews, community information, and insight into the world of BDSM. This blog and connected site are 18+ only, kinky, LGBTQ-friendly, sex-positive and probably non-vegan. Experience service at BrianOfthelost.com
My calendar has been updated for October. I notice that I often fail to post updates here, but know that the Upcoming Events page on My website has a full schedule posted every month.
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - Philly Trans* March
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - The Aviary
Sunday, October 11th, 2015 - Old City Fest
Thursday, October 15th, 2015 - So You Think You're Kinky
Friday, October 16th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes: Intro to Rope Bondage
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - From Harness to Hogtie: Intermediate Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for July. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Saturday, July 11th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, July 17th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, July 18th, 2015 - 3rd Annual Kink D'Soleil
Sunday, July 19th, 2015 - Professional Dominants Brunch
Sunday, July 19th, 2015 - Philadelphia Community Picnic
My calendar has been updated for May. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, May 1st, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, May 8th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, May 9th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, May 15th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Sunday, May 17th, 2015 - Professional Dominants Brunch
This is also a great moment to do an early announcement! Mark your calendars for June 6th, as that will be the night of Philadelphia Fetish and Bootblack 2015, at which I will be competing! Come and cheer Me on!
My calendar has been updated for April. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, April 3rd, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, April 10th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, April 11th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, April 17th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, April 18th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes; Intro to Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for March. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, March 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, March 13th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
The past month has seen Me very busy in My personal life, and so I have not been updating things at all. New content policies on Blogger have been switching on and then back off, which has also slowed Me down. At least I have a backup blog now, in case this one is taken down for some reason. I'll be updating soon.
My calendar has been updated for February. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, February 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Thursday, February 12th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - Panel: Yes, It Still Works
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - BDSM 101: Navigating the Jungle of Power Dynamics
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, February 21st, 2015 - Picking Up the Rope: Intro to Rope Bondage
Sunday, February 22nd, 2015 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
These past 2 months have been crazy. With the holiday period and events happening, I've been slacking off. The past month saw Me with computer issues that were only fixed as of this morning. But now, all is done! Whee! Be prepared for the following in 2015:
New videos! A hitachi edging video and a hypnotic poppers trainer are currently in My edit cue. A few more sexy surprises are also coming...
New events! AndroShare will be making a comeback in February, and I'll be giving a talk for Sex Week at Lafayette university the same month.
New toys! Christmas and My birthday have brought Me some goodies. I'll be sharing some of those, as I tend to do.
New stories! Session retellings, lifestyle essays, and scene information will make it on Wicked Wanderlust II this year.
Although I had said I would not be individually pushing events, but as a member, I would like to take a couple of lines to invite you all to the Black and Gold Ball. The inaugural project for prospects of new local leather club Queer Leather Alliance is a night of leather fun and education, including mini workshops such as Queering Leather. Sex Toys for Queer Bodies, Flagging 101, and Power Exchange Basics. There will also be a Fashion Show and performances featuring the Liberty City Kings. So come, and join in on the fun! We will also be raffling off a basket, "A Taste of Queer Philadelphia," which will contain a ticket for a 2-hour session of either play or education with Yours Truly. Sessions a little bit pricy for you? Now's your chance to get one and give back to the community, all at once! Finally, there will also be bootblacks and a pet playground all night, so all you boot sluts and pups will be well served as well!
I know I've been away, and you've been terribly lonely. But I also know you know better than to complain... or you'll get your cock crushed under My feet. Like this poor fellow:
--- My January schedule can be found here. Suspension Night is this Friday. The Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch is next Sunday. The Black and Gold Ball is on January 31st.
I'd like to think that I kicked off My birthday week with Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, and will be closing with a weekend of personal fun between events, as I share My birthday with My lover, one day apart.
That's right. His birthday is on Friday, while Mine is on Saturday. I wanted to stop in briefly for a couple of photos and ramblings. Last week ended with an email from San Diego from a boy just begging to be manipulated. I took his credit card shopping for a couple new things for Saturday's Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, where I manned a table for the upcoming Diabolique Ball 2014: Viva La Revolution! The second floor of Voyeur was turned into Der Karneval Diabolique, where I awaited with Goddess Thain to beat you up and tie you down! The stations were there to raise awareness for Diabolique, coming up on November 21st. I will be performing at this annual charity ball with Iris Enchanted to bring you a sexy look at the French Revolution... Marie Antoinette thinks she can sit in Versailles all day as the people of France starve... Well, we'll show her!
I also wanted to show off the following two books I picked up at the silent auction of PLPN, A first edition of Jon Jacobs, William D. Brame, and Gloria Brame's Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission as well as a first edition of The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. Huzzah! I always approve of new books for My collection of fetish and BDSM reading. I've been considering adding new ones to My wishlist, such as this little gem. Snagged that one off someone's private wishlist... that's why you don't give your passwords to strangers.
I've been somewhat reclusive for the past month or so, and have been relatively occupied. I still have more to do. Changes, projects, classes. Starting in December, I will be running My Intro to Rope class every 3rd Saturday of the month at Kink Shoppe, seeing how there is a high demand for it. I really want to present at SEXx 2015, but have not handled a large room for a class as a presenter, and am not yet confident in My ability to lead a course on bondage for more than 15 people at a time. So perhaps next year. :-D
I am meeting with a potential new video boy this upcoming week. Should the meeting go well, hopefully new videos will be on the way. Since I have been busy with other things, and the few shoot I have scheduled cancelled, My Clips4Sale store has fallen into disrepair. Hopefully, some new clips will be put up soon. I have a lot of ideas, and since I'm a little bit strange, I was thinking of exploring some of the more interesting fetishes out there, from macrophilia to immurement fantasies. I'm still looking to edge a bound superhero in a lycra bodysuit and alien impregnate a twink, so if you'd be interested, dear reader, why not shoot Me a message, hm?
The next week is going to be pretty be interesting and fun. And why not make it extra fun for Me? It is My birthday, after all, and birthdays are supposed to be a good time. So why not go on and head over to My wishlists and take a look? I have one for all the playthings I want, one for books of all sorts, one for underwear, boots, and other clothes, and a random one, just because. So you are going to head over to one of them, and find something you think I could particularly use. Hell, there's even priority items. And you're going to have something sent to Me, perhaps with a little note wishing Me a happy birthday. It is after all, a momentous occasion.
My calendar has been updated for November. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Monday, November 3rd, 2014 - The Aviary Munch
Friday, November 7th, 2014 - TNG Munch
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - The Aviary
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - Philadelphia Leather Pride Night
Saturday, November 15th, 2014 - My Birthday!
Friday, November 21st, 2014 - Suspension Night @ The Kink Shoppe
Friday, November 21st, 2014 · Diabolique 2014: Viva La Revolution!
Saturday, November 22nd, 2014 · Diabolique Brunch
Sunday, November 23rd, 2014 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
So you want to get out there and meet other kinksters. That's great!
There are two types of kink-curious people I speak to. The first type isn't part of the "lifestyle." They aren't particularly interested, are in a vanilla relationship, don't have the time, or have one-off interests. Some simply prefer no involvement and want to just do the occasional "crazy thing." Other prefer to treat their play as one would a therapy session, as a complete reset of their brain. To these folks, I recommend private sessions and/or training with a professional Dominant of repute. Most people who have the equipment and skills to deliver a powerful experience will rarely play with a stranger, much less an inexperienced one, as a one-off. They want to form some form of connection or relationship with their bottom in order to know them better. Professional Dominants, on the other hand, tend to be personable, adept at character reading, and skilled in their art and safety practices. Most of us do this because we love it: we love sharing our skill with new people, we enjoy the very wide variety of energies that flow in our dungeons, and we revel in learning about how the minds of other work.
The second type of kink-curious people I speak to are those who are more lifestyle-oriented. They actively have a desire to foster their interests and mold them as part of them. Some of them desire a D/s relationship, others are drawn to the community aspect of BDSM, and some just like having new life experiences. To these folk, I encourage them to join community events, classes, and local groups. I often get contacted online by people who want to "join," as if this was some kind of club; and every now and then, someone comes to My dungeon who would fare better as a lifestyler, but doesn't know where to start besides Me. I always start by pointing them out to the same resources. This writing is for you.
A common thing to do if you want to learn more about your local community is to join FetLife. FetLife is the internet's leading BDSM social network. It is very much reliant on events and group discussions, and is best for folks who want to learn and participate in talks about the lifestyle. It often is the first thing newcomers do. Fetlife is not a site for hooking up, cruising, or finding partners. Although those things do happen, the vast majority of people on FetLife are actively involved with other people, be it romantically or otherwise. The site is not even really formatted for that. Folks who join up thinking they will find some quick kinky sex will be very disappointed. Not only will they not find it, but their ape-like approached is often mocked on several different boards. So how do you use it then? Simple: fill out a profile, place a sensible picture of yourself up (that means no cockshots, fellas!), and go to the Groups section. Type in the name of your area to find local discussions. In the case of Philadelphia, there are several groups, including Philly TNG, Philly Friends, and The Aviary Philly, all which cater to the locals. Join some interest groups... I am a member of Gay Male Sadists and Masochists, Sacred Pain, and Destiny's Chamber to name a few. Read. Participate. This is how you learn things.
If you want some social interaction, but don't think you wanna "get kinky" right away, look into coming to a munch. A munch is a monthly social gathering for food and drinks, often at a diner or cafe. No leathers, no whips, just people getting together, eating, and catching up with each other. It's low key, and usually very welcoming. Larger metropolitan areas tend to have interest-specific munches. Here in Philadelphia, we have the Philadelphia TNG Munch (aimed at kinksters 18-35), The Aviary Munch (a good place for attendees and friends to get together and maybe make plans for the upcoming party?), and the Dress to Thrill Munch (that link has more!), just to name a few.
Perhaps you've done a couple of munches, and you want to move on. Maybe the munch setting isn't really for you and you are curious about what the hell this "play" I keep going on about really is. Well, then it's time to jump in and come to a play party! There's always a party happening somewhere. Dress up or dress down, bring your toys or just come to watch, parties are good public environments to meet others kinksters and watch them play and engage in BDSM together. Now, parties are not pick-up grounds or cruising fields. Most public parties are not sex-positive, and require you keep your genitalia covered. However, there are also many private parties that are sex-positive, and where anything goes. If you intend to go to a party, please remember to mind your etiquette. Be sure to read the rules of the event, be respectful of others and their space, and don't touch things that aren't yours without asking (things and people). Please do not interrupt scenes (you can ask questions before or after) or leer creepily at something you find interesting. Polite observation is fine. These are safe spaces, and any harassment or discrimination will not be tolerated. Philadelphia's main BDSM play party is The Aviary, held every second Saturday at the William Way Center, in the heart of Center City. If you come to the Aviary, be sure to look for Goddess Thain or Myself and say hello! We always take time to chat newcomers up and answer questions.
Is education more of your thing? Do you have your theory, but don't know where to get your practical? Going to classes is a great way to sharpen your skills and meet others who share your interests. There are all types of classes, from "seminar-style" talks, to hands-on lessons, to demos, to skillshares. They run the gamut of prices and interests, and many classes in larger cities are taught by both national and international presenters, allowing for a great deal of knowledge to be passed. Here in Philadelphia, classes are mainly organized by Passional and the Kink Shoppe. Both stores have their class schedules up on their websites. Now, for a bit of shameless self-promotion, I am doing a few classes this month (imagine that!). Next Monday, I will be hosting AndroShare: Mummification at Passional. AndroShare is a monthly skillshare for male-identified folk where we just sit around and talk about experiences with different things, and demo how to do some of those things. This month, we'll be focusing on mummification! Then, the weekend of the 19th is a rope intensive extravaganza, starting with Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe on Friday, and followed by my rope 101 and 201 classes respectively, Picking Up the Ropes on Saturday, and From Harness to Hogtie on Sunday. As with all of My events, you can see a detailed listing right on My schedule page.
I see it very often this last method these days, and I approve. Some folks just want to dive in and get a full immersion experience. They see an ad online, or maybe are fresh arrivals to FetLife and see a group post, and a week later, they are attending a weekend event. The experience, although amazing, can be sometimes overwhelming for first-timers. These large, regional events are incredible places to meet kinksters from all walks of life, learn from top-notch presenters, shop from quality independent vendors, and experience the community like never before. One of My first outings was FetFest 2011, and I remember it fondly as an amazing, transformatory time. Many of these, such as The Floating World and Dark Odyssey happen out of state, the two just mentioned in New Jersey and Maryland, respectively. They can be quite pricey, so make sure to get early ticket, or to apply to volunteer for the events if you are a bit tight on cash. These weekend-long extravaganzas tend to include a hotel with well-priced room, and are very fun. Anyone going to them walks out with something, be it new friends, new skills, or new toys.
So there you are, five ways you can meet kinksters in your local community. It is often easy to forget that what may seem common sense to us kinksters is confusing and new to folks who are just coming into this. So I thought it would be good to answer the questions I am perpetually asked in one long writing. It was once expressed to Me such: There are some 10,000 kinksters in the Philadelphia area metropolitan area, and only about 1,000 participate in lifestyle events. This is not because the other 90% don't wish to participate (though I'm sure about half of them don't), but mainly because they don't know how to start. Of course, I cannot vouch for those numbers, but they look pretty accurate to a local.
There is incredible power in community, because in community there is there is knowledge and compassion. I look back at before when My journey started, and think of all the people I have met since then, and how I felt such connection with them. I went through a very rough patch last year, and when I thought I had lost everything and nowhere to go, I still had this community, who propped Me back up and helped Me out. And I wonder, how many people out there have no-one. Or are trapped in a life that they feel is not their own. And I remember loneliness.
I suppose that's My reason for this. I want to tell people who are scared, or worried, or hesitant "Come out! It's OK. There is family here" and open a door to all of this, giving people tangible links and examples. I didn't have it, and it's the question I hear most often: "Where can I meet others?" Well, here are some solutions. Take notice of them, and when you feel ready, step through those doors and come out to play.
Hope to see you out there!
--- My schedule for September can be found here. The TNG Munch is tomorrow. AndroShare: Mummification is next Monday. The Aviary Munch is next Tuesday.
My calendar has been updated for September. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
The brutal cold had caused Me to go into more or less of a hibernation state. I had some amazing fun at some recent events, but I'll keep that fun private for now (let us just say it involved blood and beatings, and I do not wish to scare My more innocent readers).
I will be attending five events in the next few weeks, and wanted to let you know about them! So, without further ado, here they are!
Nachtmahr, the Austrian industrial project by Thomas Rainer will be performing at Asylum 13 this upcoming Thursday along with Ludovico Technique! Come see these awesome bands making the Earth quiver on Thursday March 27th, and come get your dark dance on! Tickets are $20 at the door, and $18 if you preorder on the website. I will be there administering beatings and suspending folk all evening. Reasons you should come? I said so. Thomas Rainer is also half of L'Ame Immortelle, one of My favorite bands of years past, and I want to see them perform again. So come to this special Asylum 13 event and support Austrian music!
Twisted World: Villains and Vixens is a three-day gathering of 18+ creative folk right up in King of Prussia running through the weekend of March 28th! There is an open dungeon space, where I will be volunteering as well as spending the majority of My time! Tickets for this event can be purchased at the door (online sale has closed) for $50 (day pass) or $80 (weekend pass). It's gonna be awesome!
Circus of Sin will be a small, carnival-like event held at the Bike Stop. Stop in for a ride on My spanking staps or other toys! On Friday, April 11th, make your way to the Bike Stop after the opening ceremonies and come have fun with local kinksters on the 3rd Floor! A $5 entrance gets you two rides!
Leather Leadership Conference: This three day conference will be utilizing several venues all within a very short distance of each other. Come join in the City of Leatherly Love, April 11th-13th with a weekend filled with: Education, Entertainment, the Carter/Johnson Leather Library, amazing art exhibits, awards, book signings, a Fireside Chat with Doug O'Keefe, the Leather Archives and Museum, leather preservation intensive, bootblacking, a cigar social, a special DIY track, and so much more that we can’t fit it all in. Presenters will be offering in-sight into their history and hot button topics we all face, like ‘Accounting & Financial Responsibility for Fiduciaries’, ‘Consent and Abuse Our Scene’ and ‘How to Do the Right Kinky Thing: Ethical Principles for BDSM’. Tickets can be purchased online or at the door, with weekend long tickets starting at $119... but if you wait until April 1st, they go up, so get your now!
Under One Flag: An Aviary and Black Phoenix Event: Since the LLC is in town in our usual Aviary space, we have teamed up with Black Phoenix for a joint event at a bigger venue, The Warehouse at EBE, to help welcome all of our visiting Leather folk! Tickets are $25 can be purchased here or at the Aviary table throughout the entire Conference. Tickets will not be sold at the door.
I always try to keep My events updated on My Upcoming Events page. Also, be sure to follow Me on Twitter, Facebook, or Vine if you want more day to day rantings, thoughts, and updates. For example, did you know that this past Friday was Suspension Night at the Kink Shoppe?
Or that Saturday night was full of needle and bloody fun?
Or maybe even that last night, I filmed a couple of hot gunge/wet and messy scenes with up and coming hot transman Lb. Cake Glitterbutch. I am also helping him with his own clipstore, so you'll be seeing a good deal of him very soon. For now, contend yourselves with this hot picture!
Also, because we have moved into Spring, I have changed My Specials for the season! I am still doing a special rate for one-hour spanking outcalls, but My current special at the dungeon is a reduced tribute for foot or boot worship sessions! For those who have a central interest in what's below My ankle, sessions come at the reduced rate of $150 per hour. So come and make sure they are pampered!
Just wanted to thank everyone who made Diabolique Ball 2013 a great success this year. The grindhouse horror theme saw a lot of wonderful costumes coming, and much money was raised!
I ended up going alone, bringing less toys than usual, and leaving a bit early. But it was a wonderful time regardless, with the Ladies of Destiny's Chamber running a spanking booth, guests from all over the world, and a poledancer dressed as the Predator (just because).
I've had a wondrous week of fun, mostly finishing up the backups on My computer and basking in birthday-ness. I have a whole bunch of new evil toys, many currently in transit from their respective locations, including a penis water gun, a Hitachi, and a blowgun (from the lovely folk at Asylum 13!)... They will be making their appearances soon! Responding to a couple of inquiries, I have also reorganized My Wishlist and split it into four, with My "main" one being toys and tools for play. The others are for clothes, books, and random things I desire. See? I make things easy.
I have completely forgot to mention that I am attending Diabolique Ball this Saturday. I wasn't sure until a week or so ago, but what can I say, I gotbusy. As a result, I am finding Myself going alone, as boy K will be vising family over the weekend and Katts and Kiddo have other plans. I am not terribly happy about this, but life must come first.
So I am looking for a young, attractive, male service sub, who would like to keep Me company and serve Me during the evening. Duties will include carrying My bags, drink service, conversation, and possible furniture service. You may accompany Me or choose to roam around during My DM shift. Playing with you is a not an obligation, and though I may, do not expect it. The submissive I choose will have a sizable discount, making this a good chance for anyone interested in attending, and anyone who would like a chance to serve Me in public.
Think that could be you? Send Me a picture and a little information about yourself at brian.ofthelost@gmail.com
The Aviary was this Saturday, and I was in a shitty headspace. However, I have Goddess Thain to thank for pulling Me out of it with some 50 needles. Pictures coming soon.
OutFest 2013 was possibly one of the funnest times I've had recently. I arrived at Bazaar on Quince around 12:45 or so, and immediately started pulling out toys for some public play.
I got some pretty kick-ass pictures:
Towards the end of the afternoon, I was approached by Swedish blogger Gustav Andersson (from TheModernNomad.com) who shyly asked Me for a bit of play and a suspension. He was incredibly handsome and very sweet, so I obliged. At the time he approached Me, the frame was in use by Logical Paradox, so I pre-rigged him and asked him what he was interested in. After some light discussion on his interests, I did a little bit of light sensation play, which quickly graduated into some nipple torture. Having talked of his mild CBT interests, we moved on to binding his hands above his head and behind his back. Then, I pulled out My viper tongue, a nasty cross between a singletail whip and a dragon tail. I mercilessly hit him below the belt, and when I had driven him to his limit... I made him count down his ten final hits. He did so in that incredibly sexy Swedish language of his. We took a short break, and then I strung him up in an inverted suspension, where I continued to play with My claws and knives.
Playing with Gustav was a wonderful experience. The intensity of the scene was way up there, and we were being watched by a decently sized crowd. I was blessed to have Jackman and Pajaro Libre around, as they took some incredible pictures:
After the scene, I did some aftercare (mega thanks to Emrys for bringing him a blanket and a Peanut Chew). I was taken by surprise with how subdued he was, and how he held on tightly to Me. Aftercare is a very important part of play for Me, and always strikes Me strangely when I am in a setting where it is needed but not provided. I cannot play properly with a bottom, and will often deny play altogether, if I cannot provide them with aftercare. I have noticed that aftercare is often forgotten in the BDSM community, and even more so in the gay BDSM community. This saddens Me a great deal, as it is an essential part of play. I cannot speak for him, but it seemed that Gustav was almost surprised that I took time out to make sure he was OK and safe after his scene. He even told Emrys, when she brought him blanket and carbs, that "you guys really know how to care for a sub." Yay for all the feels.
I had an amazing time. Thank you all of you who came to OutFest, and anyone who came to My station for a little fun. I will definitely be back at the next pride event representing some BDSM love!
On to some other things:
Tomorrow is Asylum 13. YAY! Expect to see some Vines and more rope fun! Be sure to come down to Mojo 13 if you want to hear some hot beats and have some kinky fun!
Friday is Suspension Night at the Kink Shoppe! This is a great chance to come watch and/or experience rope suspension in a friendly, public environment. I will be there all night, as I tend to be, so be sure to come on up and talk to Me. Apparently, a secret source tells Me there will be cookies.
Next week is when you really want to be available, though...
Friday, October 25th, I am teaching Picking Up the Ropes, My introductory class to rope bondage.
The next day, Saturday 26th, is the Halloween Madness Masquerade Ball down at Mojo 13 again. There will be some awesome music, including Aesthetic Perfection, Nekronet, Die Sektor, Venal Flesh, and other wild industrial craziness. Come up and check out My awesome Halloween costume!
Finally, Sunday 27th, I will be back at the Kink Shoppe to teach My intermediate rope bondage class, From Harness to Hogtie. Come learn how to get kinky with some rope!
The links to the three events above lead to pages where you can read more about them and purchase advance tickets. Remember, you can always check what My upcoming events are on the Upcoming Events page of My website, or on My FetLife group!
And a great Aviary, where Stitch came out to his first public event. And there was much rejoicing. The new Katts POV vids will be edited and uploaded next week. Why is this?
Because I am enjoying three days of kinky goodness at The Floating World, where I am blogging from today. I arrived in Edison, NJ at 7 PM with Lady Rez. I will not be vending for Echo's Fire after all, but I will be your friendly Dungeon Monitor late night on Saturday, as well as a late morning and nighttime on Sunday. Drop in and say hi!
As far as today, I just wasn't feeling to well, so I just tried to keep to Myself. However, that means more time to plan for tomorrow. :-)
Also, it seems I have found a way to FetFest 2013! I will be there all weekend as part of Dungeon setup crew, and hope to see many faces I haven't seen in a long time! Hooray!
I'm sorry. I can't help Myself. I had to come back. I couldn't leave you all without My annoyingly verbose updates. How would you survive? *wink*
Things are very slowly returning to normalcy. Thanks to all of the people who have reached out to Me in support of this nutty period of My life. I should be back to normal operating status by the end of the month! I'm still not taking same-day in-calls to the dungeon, but I will take 24h advance notice for them. Meanwhile, My out-calls remain available on a same-day notice.
First things first, thank you to everyone who showed to My Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex class, as well as My all-day demos for InsideOut Old City. Mega-thanks to My amazing demo bottom, suspension bunny, and amazing PR goddess, Marthamatic, as well as to anyone who came out for this fun day! Here are some delightful pictures to entertain you!
No wonder I get branded as the "rope guy" everywhere I go. If there are ever too many pictures of Me doing something, it's probably suspending people. I can't help it!
I am also blessed to have some wonderful friends and play partners who always keep a smile on My face when I am down. It is thanks to them that I have not lost My smile.
In fact, I just recently received a visit from My friends Kara, Nevaahe, and Stark. We have not seen each other since 2006, and seeing them was an amazing experience. It's true that we make few friends in our short time on this Earth. I am happy to count these three among Mine. Sadly, a picture is not the best thing I could put up, seeing how I'd have to blur all faces due to sensitive vanilla-related issues. Still find it quite funny that we were friends back when we were 13-14, and now we're all kinky, and still friends. Great minds think alike!
I also have to thank Katts, who lets Me beat him mercilessly at Asylum 13 every week (except for last night, which made Me sad faced... more on that later), an activity which brings Me an immense amount of psychological well-being. Some three weeks ago, the wonderful Rhino Photography, lead photographer of the event, took some truly amazing shots of a shared scene with Gabriel Drax. Here are a few of My favorites:
I'm not sure Katts knows how grateful I am to him and his girlfriend for letting Me do all this with him. As I have mentioned, we were in the process of negotiating some video work a while back, and I am happy to say that I indeed will be filming with him, hopefully two or three scenes by the end of the month. So yay! I need to remember to control My play though. I get a little overenthusiastic sometimes, which is exactly why his girlfriend punished him and didn't let him play with Me this week. What can I say, I got a little out of hand last week:
See that face? That's masochistic ecstasy, right there.I had a stupid grin on My face for at least five days. And he had a nasty scratch on his stomach, courtesy of My bear claws. And apparently, the crucifix scratch in his chest just faded a couple of days ago. Whoopsy tootsy!
So I was going to have a little more fun last night, but then he informed Me (very cutely, may I add) that his girlfriend was a bit miffed at how hard I went on him last week, and didn't want us playing this week. That's more of a punishment on Me, dammit!
Add to the fact that I was supposed to see a visitor last night (the awesome plan involved Me locking up his cock, chaining him to the bed leg, and then sleeping in said bed while he remained on the floor), but he ended up falling asleep before I got there... and no play for Me. So I have been a bit out of My mind all day with sadistic ideas and generally kinky thoughts...
...which lead Me to consider running a nantaimori night sometime soon. Who doesn't enjoy naked men? Who doesn't enjoy sushi? Obviously, the combination of these two things would be quite perfect. I am not too shabby at sushi preparation, and this would be a lovely chance for Me to run a dinner-style event Myself, an idea which I've been toying with. And did I mention the naked men?
I already have lofty, unrealistic plans, so I guess things are working out after all. Stay tuned. Oh, and I'll be at The Aviary, tomorrow night. See you there, fellow kinksters!
So guess who had a very successful rope class? That's right, I did! Thanks to all who attended. I will definitely now do a 202 class for those who attended and those wishing to learn techniques above elementary rope. Here are a couple of pictures:
As My demo, I used the lovely and lithe Katts who was a wonderful sport, even when I teased him a bit. He did very good, and I am quite proud of him. We also discussed video work together and both him and his girlfriend seemed game, so keep your eye out for some hot clips featuring a lot of beating mixed with a good bit of this:
I'm such a horrible tease. And I'm going to fuck that beautiful skinny straight boy up. Look, doesn't My collar already look perfect on him?
By the way, if you've not gone either to the First Friday demo or the rope class, you are missing out. In fact, since Kink Shoppe is not too far from Me, I'm often there just hanging out and playing with Myself a good deal. I mean, BY Myself, excuse Me. In fact, I recently did a little compilation on YouTube of different people's Vine videos which I found and put together.
As you can see, you've been missing a lot of things.
Just last night, I went to the Bike Stop, where a gentleman was celebrating his 31st birthday. Because I always have My toys with Me when I go out, I gave him a sound birthday beating. However, I went past thirty-one, because the little painslut was really loving it. After 45, I realized that another few hits might have been more than he bargained for in the morning, so I did stop. I did have a great amount of fun though, and was complimented by a few nice gentlemen on My lovely form.
It did remind Me of something that I have mentioned repeatedly, although most FetLifers know this already: if I have not felt it first, I do not dish it. I will always bottom at least once to what I top with.
In fact, on very rare occasions, when things aren't going very well for Me in the great turmoil that is My brainmeats, I will seek peace and quietude by taking pain, usually in an unusual situation or setting. This is exactly what I did on Thursday at Asylum 13, when I suspended Myself upside down and blindfolded, and let Gabriel Drax, organizer and grand pasha of flogging, beat Me with his particularly nasty dragontail. The results, as can be seen on the left, were harsh (at least for Me, who does not enjoy pain per se). But what was nice was the bit of mental peace that followed. See? This is exactly what happens when you don't follow Me around: I get half naked and writhe about like sandtrout, and you have no clue until it's too late. Oh well.
So what has My brainmeats in turmoil? A couple things. First, the computer I have been using since My own computer exploded is going back to its rightful owner. I have been using it for four months now, and it has served Me very well, but all good things must come to an end.
I do own two other computers, so I will still be posting, booking sessions, and making Myself available regularly to answer questions and fill the internet with My babble, but that is not the issue:
In short, it looks like My fetish pornography empire is not going to be as prolific as I thought. It's always one step forward and two steps back. I'm getting really fucking sick of all this bullshit which interrupts My groove.
Let's also add to that issue the fact that some pretty pernicious rumors have been started about Me, which are causing Me strife and calling My morality and motives in question. So I'll speak to two people right now publicly:
To Individual Number One: If someone claims I said something, the correct action to do is to directly come to Me an confront Me like an adult. I have no interest in lying to anyone, as that take away from My well-known neutrality. It's what I have based My entire reputation on, so trust, it's not going to shift any time soon. Also, I have quite the way with words, and those who have taken even five minutes of their lives to know Me can easily distinguish things I say from things others claim I say. I also have no interest in shitting where I eat, by the way.
This next bit is to Individual Number Two, and had no bearing on what I said to Number One: If you decide that you are going to be a negative force trying to destroy Me (either because you do not like Me or are jealous of Me), be assured that I will find you. And I will ruin every bit of your life. Your very name will be a synonym for distrust, unfaithfulness, and damage; and I will make it My personal pleasure to make sure that your very existence as an agent of anything good is destroyed, even across oceans. And if you don't think that can happen, try Me, bitch.
Yelan abo taareesak to a good portion of the scene, by the way. Before speaking, be sure that My eyes and ears are not around. It's the least you can do before digging your own grave.
I had a lovely chat with Goddess Cleo earlier today, and while I stated I did not wish to return to England just yet, I'm now really considering it: I miss London a great deal. Now that was a place where people were honest and upfront, and where social standing was based purely on skill and knowledge, not who you rub elbows with or gossip about.
Now if you will excuse Me, I have a party to get ready for and attend.
As usual, things have been so hectic that I have neglected any blog posting in the past week and a half or so. So I am going to be filling you in backwards, because I am magical. So do keep up.
My Sunday was full of filming at Destiny's Chamber with a boy that we will tentatively call "Dean" for now. Dean and I had met once before and played once, and I definitely thought that he was a hot little slut, ripe for a little combo of pain and pleasure. We spend the day filming two scenes, one involving some evil electroplay and teasing, and the other a very hot prostate massage in bondage!
We barely finished that a visitor called to enquire for an evening session. Now, I am usually not available at the dungeon on Sundays, but since I was already here and dressed, and quite in the mood for some fun, I had no problem taking him a few hours later! After a sound spanking, I realized his closeted ass was getting excited by all of the action. A definite little slut, he was. I taught him a hard lesson with a nine inch piece which had him on the verge of tears. The yelps of pain and pleasure as his nipples were tortured by the meanest clamps while being rammed from behind were very humbling for him... and very satisfying for Me! I have a feeling he will be returning for another voyage into surreal depravity before long...
Sunday saw many weapons of ass destruction...
Saturday was also spend filming at the Chamber with an adorable twink boy with a tendency to cry... one you may have seen once or twice before around these parts! Finally, a suiting name, Kiddo is such a delight to play with. His tears bring such peace to Me, such inner satisfaction and quiet. And with all of those who share tears, I always do enjoy the quietude captured in the post-scene moment.
Thanks for catching these, Switch Samantha!
So, if I have been filming for a while now, where is all the footage? Well, I do like things to be planned and well-executed, and I am currently in the process of editing and transferring all of them onto a temporary drive. I'm reminding everyone that I'm still without My own laptop, am am working off friends' while the defective new one gets replaced. Seeing how I have not really selected the stills I want, or corrected them, you will simply have to do with these four "quickstills" I hastily and poorly captured (because after so much planning and announcing, it's about God-damned time you see something!)
Clockwise from upper left: Corporal with Kiddo, bound prostate massage with Dean, sounding and stimming Kiddo, and Dean held in bondage and tortured with electricity and CBT
These four videos will hopefully be ready with stills and preview clips in the space of a week to a week and a half. I have gotten quite busy in these past couple of spring weeks with life and future planning, and it looks like I will still be quite busy in the next couple as well.
Friday was spent yet again at the Chamber, where I helped the beautiful Dominas of the dungeon gain some new rope skills and techniques that are sure to delight and restrain! I personally like to have fun when teaching or learning new skills, and I was delighted to see that Miss Beni and Domina Noxx were of the same mindset as I! It's lovely to be surrounded by such lovely and charming creatures!
Of course, Thursday was, as usual, Asylum 13 night. All of the pictures can be found on My Facebook, courtesy of the wonderful Rhino Photography. As usual, I will be posting another suspensions video on My YouTube page. Subscribe to Me or friend Me if you don't want to miss a thing: each of My social networking sites have their own individual content posted on them!
The daytime hours of Tuesday through Thursday did see Me particularly unavailable, as I had other pressing matters to deal with... but that's generally how the week went. Now, on to the future! I will be attending a private party this Saturday, so will be unavailable for afternoon sessions. As we've discussed, videos and photos are on their way. But here is something much more interesting, and the best piece of news:
That's right folks, I will be teaching a beginner class in rope bondage at the Sexploratorium next week! Tickets can be purchased in advance for a mere $20, or on the day of for $30. Remember, if you are an affiliate or student, you get five dollars off! In this class, I'll present quick and simple techniques that can all be used together to place your partner in your preferred restrained position. This is a great chance to pick up a deceptively simple skill than can provide a lifetime of pleasure and exploration! So, will you be joining Me on April 5th, at 7 PM at the Sexploratorium, here in the heart of Philly? Respond on either FL or Facebook, and I will see you there!
Phew. As usual, this post was a tad long. What can I say, I keep quite busy and active in My local community. I find that the most precious thing that we can share as people is education and community: the BDSM subculture is thriving, and it's thanks to the tireless works of kinky folks that people can explore and grow in their fantasies and experiences in a safe and happy manner and among loving and supporting people. Isn't that what we all deserve?
Keep an eye out. A series of hot foot pictures will be coming soon, as long as punishment for a very disappointing boy from the other side of the Atlantic...
So, apparently, My recent ridiculously long post I recently did apparently had some effect when someone came to see Me at the Aviary! Apparently, My encouraging of people to get out and explore their kinky side touched on a young fellow who had never really explored any of his interests before, who showed up to the Arts Garage with a friend. I was having a fun beating with Leggatt, and once we were done, he politely asked Me if I had a little bit of time to dedicate to him. I had some time, so I happily tied him and spanked him good! And now, I think he learned a bit about himself, and will hopefully find some time to explore it. Whee! Look at all the good I do.
Great Aviary, and great Asylum 13 as well! Here is a video of some of the suspensions that went on that night...
