I am Sir Brian, professional and lifestyle Dominant in Philadelphia, PA. Welcome to Wicket Wanderlust II, where you can find sessions stories, video previews, community information, and insight into the world of BDSM. This blog and connected site are 18+ only, kinky, LGBTQ-friendly, sex-positive and probably non-vegan. Experience service at BrianOfthelost.com
Here are My event updates for November! Since this is My birthday month, I am taking it easy and not really headed out to many events, at least not very public ones.
My calendar has been updated for October. I notice that I often fail to post updates here, but know that the Upcoming Events page on My website has a full schedule posted every month.
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - Philly Trans* March
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - The Aviary
Sunday, October 11th, 2015 - Old City Fest
Thursday, October 15th, 2015 - So You Think You're Kinky
Friday, October 16th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes: Intro to Rope Bondage
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - From Harness to Hogtie: Intermediate Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for May. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, May 1st, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, May 8th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, May 9th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, May 15th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Sunday, May 17th, 2015 - Professional Dominants Brunch
This is also a great moment to do an early announcement! Mark your calendars for June 6th, as that will be the night of Philadelphia Fetish and Bootblack 2015, at which I will be competing! Come and cheer Me on!
My calendar has been updated for April. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, April 3rd, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, April 10th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, April 11th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, April 17th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, April 18th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes; Intro to Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for March. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, March 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, March 13th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
The past month has seen Me very busy in My personal life, and so I have not been updating things at all. New content policies on Blogger have been switching on and then back off, which has also slowed Me down. At least I have a backup blog now, in case this one is taken down for some reason. I'll be updating soon.
My calendar has been updated for February. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, February 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Thursday, February 12th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - Panel: Yes, It Still Works
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - BDSM 101: Navigating the Jungle of Power Dynamics
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, February 21st, 2015 - Picking Up the Rope: Intro to Rope Bondage
Sunday, February 22nd, 2015 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
My calendar has been updated for November. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Monday, November 3rd, 2014 - The Aviary Munch
Friday, November 7th, 2014 - TNG Munch
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - The Aviary
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - Philadelphia Leather Pride Night
Saturday, November 15th, 2014 - My Birthday!
Friday, November 21st, 2014 - Suspension Night @ The Kink Shoppe
Friday, November 21st, 2014 · Diabolique 2014: Viva La Revolution!
Saturday, November 22nd, 2014 · Diabolique Brunch
Sunday, November 23rd, 2014 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
Since I did not work Outfest this year, I spent that day doing suspension at Old City Festival. I had a lot of fun tying up folk and hanging out with Captain Crash, Sharkzilla, Iris, QuOTA, and Kanin. There we several photos taken. Here is a small selection!
As per usual, a complete set can be seen on My FetLife account. I have been slow in uploading this set.
So you want to get out there and meet other kinksters. That's great!
There are two types of kink-curious people I speak to. The first type isn't part of the "lifestyle." They aren't particularly interested, are in a vanilla relationship, don't have the time, or have one-off interests. Some simply prefer no involvement and want to just do the occasional "crazy thing." Other prefer to treat their play as one would a therapy session, as a complete reset of their brain. To these folks, I recommend private sessions and/or training with a professional Dominant of repute. Most people who have the equipment and skills to deliver a powerful experience will rarely play with a stranger, much less an inexperienced one, as a one-off. They want to form some form of connection or relationship with their bottom in order to know them better. Professional Dominants, on the other hand, tend to be personable, adept at character reading, and skilled in their art and safety practices. Most of us do this because we love it: we love sharing our skill with new people, we enjoy the very wide variety of energies that flow in our dungeons, and we revel in learning about how the minds of other work.
The second type of kink-curious people I speak to are those who are more lifestyle-oriented. They actively have a desire to foster their interests and mold them as part of them. Some of them desire a D/s relationship, others are drawn to the community aspect of BDSM, and some just like having new life experiences. To these folk, I encourage them to join community events, classes, and local groups. I often get contacted online by people who want to "join," as if this was some kind of club; and every now and then, someone comes to My dungeon who would fare better as a lifestyler, but doesn't know where to start besides Me. I always start by pointing them out to the same resources. This writing is for you.
A common thing to do if you want to learn more about your local community is to join FetLife. FetLife is the internet's leading BDSM social network. It is very much reliant on events and group discussions, and is best for folks who want to learn and participate in talks about the lifestyle. It often is the first thing newcomers do. Fetlife is not a site for hooking up, cruising, or finding partners. Although those things do happen, the vast majority of people on FetLife are actively involved with other people, be it romantically or otherwise. The site is not even really formatted for that. Folks who join up thinking they will find some quick kinky sex will be very disappointed. Not only will they not find it, but their ape-like approached is often mocked on several different boards. So how do you use it then? Simple: fill out a profile, place a sensible picture of yourself up (that means no cockshots, fellas!), and go to the Groups section. Type in the name of your area to find local discussions. In the case of Philadelphia, there are several groups, including Philly TNG, Philly Friends, and The Aviary Philly, all which cater to the locals. Join some interest groups... I am a member of Gay Male Sadists and Masochists, Sacred Pain, and Destiny's Chamber to name a few. Read. Participate. This is how you learn things.
If you want some social interaction, but don't think you wanna "get kinky" right away, look into coming to a munch. A munch is a monthly social gathering for food and drinks, often at a diner or cafe. No leathers, no whips, just people getting together, eating, and catching up with each other. It's low key, and usually very welcoming. Larger metropolitan areas tend to have interest-specific munches. Here in Philadelphia, we have the Philadelphia TNG Munch (aimed at kinksters 18-35), The Aviary Munch (a good place for attendees and friends to get together and maybe make plans for the upcoming party?), and the Dress to Thrill Munch (that link has more!), just to name a few.
Perhaps you've done a couple of munches, and you want to move on. Maybe the munch setting isn't really for you and you are curious about what the hell this "play" I keep going on about really is. Well, then it's time to jump in and come to a play party! There's always a party happening somewhere. Dress up or dress down, bring your toys or just come to watch, parties are good public environments to meet others kinksters and watch them play and engage in BDSM together. Now, parties are not pick-up grounds or cruising fields. Most public parties are not sex-positive, and require you keep your genitalia covered. However, there are also many private parties that are sex-positive, and where anything goes. If you intend to go to a party, please remember to mind your etiquette. Be sure to read the rules of the event, be respectful of others and their space, and don't touch things that aren't yours without asking (things and people). Please do not interrupt scenes (you can ask questions before or after) or leer creepily at something you find interesting. Polite observation is fine. These are safe spaces, and any harassment or discrimination will not be tolerated. Philadelphia's main BDSM play party is The Aviary, held every second Saturday at the William Way Center, in the heart of Center City. If you come to the Aviary, be sure to look for Goddess Thain or Myself and say hello! We always take time to chat newcomers up and answer questions.
Is education more of your thing? Do you have your theory, but don't know where to get your practical? Going to classes is a great way to sharpen your skills and meet others who share your interests. There are all types of classes, from "seminar-style" talks, to hands-on lessons, to demos, to skillshares. They run the gamut of prices and interests, and many classes in larger cities are taught by both national and international presenters, allowing for a great deal of knowledge to be passed. Here in Philadelphia, classes are mainly organized by Passional and the Kink Shoppe. Both stores have their class schedules up on their websites. Now, for a bit of shameless self-promotion, I am doing a few classes this month (imagine that!). Next Monday, I will be hosting AndroShare: Mummification at Passional. AndroShare is a monthly skillshare for male-identified folk where we just sit around and talk about experiences with different things, and demo how to do some of those things. This month, we'll be focusing on mummification! Then, the weekend of the 19th is a rope intensive extravaganza, starting with Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe on Friday, and followed by my rope 101 and 201 classes respectively, Picking Up the Ropes on Saturday, and From Harness to Hogtie on Sunday. As with all of My events, you can see a detailed listing right on My schedule page.
I see it very often this last method these days, and I approve. Some folks just want to dive in and get a full immersion experience. They see an ad online, or maybe are fresh arrivals to FetLife and see a group post, and a week later, they are attending a weekend event. The experience, although amazing, can be sometimes overwhelming for first-timers. These large, regional events are incredible places to meet kinksters from all walks of life, learn from top-notch presenters, shop from quality independent vendors, and experience the community like never before. One of My first outings was FetFest 2011, and I remember it fondly as an amazing, transformatory time. Many of these, such as The Floating World and Dark Odyssey happen out of state, the two just mentioned in New Jersey and Maryland, respectively. They can be quite pricey, so make sure to get early ticket, or to apply to volunteer for the events if you are a bit tight on cash. These weekend-long extravaganzas tend to include a hotel with well-priced room, and are very fun. Anyone going to them walks out with something, be it new friends, new skills, or new toys.
So there you are, five ways you can meet kinksters in your local community. It is often easy to forget that what may seem common sense to us kinksters is confusing and new to folks who are just coming into this. So I thought it would be good to answer the questions I am perpetually asked in one long writing. It was once expressed to Me such: There are some 10,000 kinksters in the Philadelphia area metropolitan area, and only about 1,000 participate in lifestyle events. This is not because the other 90% don't wish to participate (though I'm sure about half of them don't), but mainly because they don't know how to start. Of course, I cannot vouch for those numbers, but they look pretty accurate to a local.
There is incredible power in community, because in community there is there is knowledge and compassion. I look back at before when My journey started, and think of all the people I have met since then, and how I felt such connection with them. I went through a very rough patch last year, and when I thought I had lost everything and nowhere to go, I still had this community, who propped Me back up and helped Me out. And I wonder, how many people out there have no-one. Or are trapped in a life that they feel is not their own. And I remember loneliness.
I suppose that's My reason for this. I want to tell people who are scared, or worried, or hesitant "Come out! It's OK. There is family here" and open a door to all of this, giving people tangible links and examples. I didn't have it, and it's the question I hear most often: "Where can I meet others?" Well, here are some solutions. Take notice of them, and when you feel ready, step through those doors and come out to play.
Hope to see you out there!
--- My schedule for September can be found here. The TNG Munch is tomorrow. AndroShare: Mummification is next Monday. The Aviary Munch is next Tuesday.
My calendar has been updated for September. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
I recently got photos back from an awesome shoot with a hot newbie named Riley. There were over 900 photos taken, and the final result is 310 pics. I've compiled the best 35 photographs and made them into a video slideshow. Enjoy the twists and ties on this sexy ginger bottom.
Here are a few of My personal favorite shots:
High-quality versions of the 35 "best of" pictures from the video can be found on My FetLife pictures page, as well as other places throughout the interwebs (such as My FetishMen and xHamster profiles). If you wish to see the full 310-picture set, you'll have to contact Me privately to get it.
The Aviary was this Saturday, and I was in a shitty headspace. However, I have Goddess Thain to thank for pulling Me out of it with some 50 needles. Pictures coming soon.
OutFest 2013 was possibly one of the funnest times I've had recently. I arrived at Bazaar on Quince around 12:45 or so, and immediately started pulling out toys for some public play.
I got some pretty kick-ass pictures:
Towards the end of the afternoon, I was approached by Swedish blogger Gustav Andersson (from TheModernNomad.com) who shyly asked Me for a bit of play and a suspension. He was incredibly handsome and very sweet, so I obliged. At the time he approached Me, the frame was in use by Logical Paradox, so I pre-rigged him and asked him what he was interested in. After some light discussion on his interests, I did a little bit of light sensation play, which quickly graduated into some nipple torture. Having talked of his mild CBT interests, we moved on to binding his hands above his head and behind his back. Then, I pulled out My viper tongue, a nasty cross between a singletail whip and a dragon tail. I mercilessly hit him below the belt, and when I had driven him to his limit... I made him count down his ten final hits. He did so in that incredibly sexy Swedish language of his. We took a short break, and then I strung him up in an inverted suspension, where I continued to play with My claws and knives.
Playing with Gustav was a wonderful experience. The intensity of the scene was way up there, and we were being watched by a decently sized crowd. I was blessed to have Jackman and Pajaro Libre around, as they took some incredible pictures:
After the scene, I did some aftercare (mega thanks to Emrys for bringing him a blanket and a Peanut Chew). I was taken by surprise with how subdued he was, and how he held on tightly to Me. Aftercare is a very important part of play for Me, and always strikes Me strangely when I am in a setting where it is needed but not provided. I cannot play properly with a bottom, and will often deny play altogether, if I cannot provide them with aftercare. I have noticed that aftercare is often forgotten in the BDSM community, and even more so in the gay BDSM community. This saddens Me a great deal, as it is an essential part of play. I cannot speak for him, but it seemed that Gustav was almost surprised that I took time out to make sure he was OK and safe after his scene. He even told Emrys, when she brought him blanket and carbs, that "you guys really know how to care for a sub." Yay for all the feels.
I had an amazing time. Thank you all of you who came to OutFest, and anyone who came to My station for a little fun. I will definitely be back at the next pride event representing some BDSM love!
On to some other things:
Tomorrow is Asylum 13. YAY! Expect to see some Vines and more rope fun! Be sure to come down to Mojo 13 if you want to hear some hot beats and have some kinky fun!
Friday is Suspension Night at the Kink Shoppe! This is a great chance to come watch and/or experience rope suspension in a friendly, public environment. I will be there all night, as I tend to be, so be sure to come on up and talk to Me. Apparently, a secret source tells Me there will be cookies.
Next week is when you really want to be available, though...
Friday, October 25th, I am teaching Picking Up the Ropes, My introductory class to rope bondage.
The next day, Saturday 26th, is the Halloween Madness Masquerade Ball down at Mojo 13 again. There will be some awesome music, including Aesthetic Perfection, Nekronet, Die Sektor, Venal Flesh, and other wild industrial craziness. Come up and check out My awesome Halloween costume!
Finally, Sunday 27th, I will be back at the Kink Shoppe to teach My intermediate rope bondage class, From Harness to Hogtie. Come learn how to get kinky with some rope!
The links to the three events above lead to pages where you can read more about them and purchase advance tickets. Remember, you can always check what My upcoming events are on the Upcoming Events page of My website, or on My FetLife group!
I am finally back from FetFest 2013, and have decompressed at My boy Stitch's house for the past couple of days. I am ready to blog, yay!
Dungeon crew is no joke, folks, let Me tell you. Moving a gigantic truck of play furniture from North Jersey down to Maryland was quite an endeavor, and I'd like to say thank you to the entire team who made it possible. It was grueling, but in the end, I think we did awesome.
FetFest 2013 was, as usual, an amazing experience. However, it seems some changes in the management structure caused quite a bit of distress and complications for many people. However, this is not the place for Me to talk about that, and I'd like to focus on the amazing experiences of this weekend. After a long and setup all day Friday, I headed down to the pool with My friend Kitty, where we had a water bondage interrogation. Having hot really enjoyed My time at MataLeao's skill share at Floating World 2013, I decided to apply some of the principles I picked up and combine them with My love of card games and knife play. I allowed Kitty some time to swim away, and then chased her down, knife in teeth. Once she was tied in a hogtie, I proceeded to "vigorously question" her on a prenegotiated secret, and managed to get the information I wanted in some 20 minutes. Our play was slightly interrupted by the full-body fire ignitions, which had been moved to Friday night, unbeknownst to Me. I did not return to the fire this year, as I had the past two, but I greatly enjoyed My time in the pool, and watching other do so. Many newcomer participated, and it was thrilling to see so many naked people catch flame.
Briefly after My scene, I headed up to the main dungeon space where I had a date with master cutter Zebrianna, who proceeded to carve a design of a xenomorph into My right thigh. I will not lie: the first pass was pretty bearable, but the second one was hard. The rubbing of alcohol into the wound, followed immediately by cigar ash (a chemically cauterizing agent) was some of the most unbelievable pain I have ever experienced, and all of the insults flew out of My mouth. Apparently, this was quite hysterical to many. The image on the left is a photograph taken Tuesday night (day 3 of healing) by My boy, after My shower and irritant scrub.
My Saturday was spent mostly relaxing and socializing while in hot pants and a cape, as well as introducing a newbie to pain in the early afternoon, and scening with the beautiful PJ in the evening for some catharsis. The night, however, was when I had to do My first irritant scrub on My cutting. For those unaware of how cutting mods work, this involves scrubbing an open wound with lemon, sea salt, and a toothbrush. I was advised to have a spotter in the shower, as the pain could lead to fainting. I had two spotters, and I'd like to take time to thank the two young ladies who helped Me during an hour and a half. I thought that the cigar ash was bad? I was a fool. I really do think at least a third of the camp either saw Me or heard Me yowling like My flesh was being ripped off. I was on the floor most of the time, as My leg refused to carry Me the second the salty lemon scrub hit the cuts. I have at least 20 minutes of lost time from that experience. I want to warn anyone who is interested in a cutting: your first scrub will be pain beyond all belief. You have been warned. The night ended with some bondage and knifeplay with the extremely bratty Kobal. In fact, he pissed Me off so much with his mouthiness, that I told him to meet Me the next day in the dungeon for a strapon hatefuck.
My Sunday was spent tanning, socializing some more, and running around with Django (My black rubber 10-inch strapon) sticking out of My pants. I did have a lovely time covering a woman with at least half a gallon of hot wax with her Dominant husband. In the late evening, I changed into My more usual priest-inspired suit wear so I could meet up with Kobal (who coincidentally looks a lot like what white people think Jesus looked like). We had some hot fun, which ended up actually turning very different from what we thought it would be. I will not detail too much out of respect for his privacy, but suffice it to say that it turned into a pretty interesting psychological deconstruction.
All in all, it was a wonderful time. My only regrets were missing the full-body fire this year, and missing the closing ritual at Primal Arts (I justified not going for the yearly ordeal sacrifice with My cutting... that was ordeal enough). I cannot wait for next year.
Dungeon crew packed up all day Monday, and we returned to normalcy late that night. A huge thanks to everyone who made this weekend possible, from BLP, to the Black Phoenix crew, to Mordona and the medics, and everyone else I interacted with . These events are what we make of them, and this year was amazing as always. Who's awesome? All of you are awesome.
Back in the normal world, I have placed on the boy Stitch a collar of consideration. This being done, we will see how he grows in his submission in the next year, and what will happen then. He has been invaluable in My stability and it is thanks to him that I have been more productive than I thought I would be. And of course, I can rely on him to stave off all the con-drop with bagels and blowjobs. Congratulations, boy.
And now, back to the grind! Back to school coincides with a good bit of workshops for Me. More info on these is available on My Upcoming Events page, on My website. The following workshops/demos will be taking place at the Kink Shoppe, at 126 Market Street in Philadelphia:
As promised, here is My preview video for "Katts is Bound and Tickled (Sir Brian's POV)." I will be uploading the finished videos to My Clips4Sale in the next 24-48h, as well as the feeding video preview, so be sure to check them out!
Also, I have opened My Vine account, where I am bored and hysterical. You can access My Vine through My Twitter account, as I use the same username. Enjoy six seconds of fun every now and then.
That's it for now, folks. This is Sir Brian, signing off.
I finally can sit and write something. But I will be brief and visual, because those are the great things in life.
The Floating World was an amazing experience that I cannot wait to repeat next year. From hogtied in the pool, to watching Wolfy get his cutting, to the mysterious event known as "it," everything was amazing and intense. I want to thank all the organizers, presenters, and wonderful people who helped put this together. A big hug to everyone I met and especially to the people who dealt with My overemotional neurosis. :-P
I have finished editing and converting three POV videos with Katts, and am going to be uploading them next week. Right now, you will have to wait... but I am merciful! And so, I give you a preview of the things to come...
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If you look on My xHamster.com page in a couple of days, you will also find a preview video for some evil tickling, and another of him eating prezel bites from My hand. Because I can be cute. They just take a while to process is all.
I returned from Floating World and had little time to decompress, between personal obligations, Asylum 13, and a rope demo at Kink Shoppe (which completely escaped My public calendars for some reason... I really should get a boy to manage My website for Me!). This did result in a very fun time! So much, that, as I may have mentioned before, I will be doing suspension demos every third Friday of the month, right in Old City! It is $5 to participate and be suspended, or free to watch. Do come out and experience the ropes, or just come to say hi! Friday, September 20th is the next suspension night.
I am also running a class for those who want to learn some butt-based corporal: Rosy Cheeks: From the Hand to the Paddle will be at the Kink Shoppe on September 27th! Further details for this are TBA. And because I know there are some rope enthusiasts out there who want to get their tying on, I will be teaching both of My rope 101 and 201 at the Kink Shoppe in late October. More details on this soon as well!
Here's a couple of pictures from suspension night:
The gentleman on the right in a futomomo-based suspension is Logical Paradox, a skilled rigger himself and winner of the 2013 Rope Rodeo. See? This is why you need to come out to Old City on third Fridays.
No week is complete without Asylum 13 madness. This time, I brought on the holy, as it's been a while since I let Father O'Brian out. That's right, I brought out the old priest collar and righteous might and went to Asylum 13 all Catholicked up. Of course, I'm one Hell of a hot priest, which quickly lands Me into trouble. These awesome photos were taken by Rhino Photography, who is genius:
And now, it's 3:30 in the morning, and I am running madly about packing. Tomorrow, I am headed to New Jersey to help build furniture for FetFest 2013. I'll be staying at the campground the entire event as dungeon crew. For Me, FetFest 2013 begins tomorrow morning! Yay!
Upon My return, there shall be updates! Website, social networks, FetLife group... I also have a Vine account now, yay! Watch My Twitter for the first video coming soon!
And a great Aviary, where Stitch came out to his first public event. And there was much rejoicing. The new Katts POV vids will be edited and uploaded next week. Why is this?
Because I am enjoying three days of kinky goodness at The Floating World, where I am blogging from today. I arrived in Edison, NJ at 7 PM with Lady Rez. I will not be vending for Echo's Fire after all, but I will be your friendly Dungeon Monitor late night on Saturday, as well as a late morning and nighttime on Sunday. Drop in and say hi!
As far as today, I just wasn't feeling to well, so I just tried to keep to Myself. However, that means more time to plan for tomorrow. :-)
Also, it seems I have found a way to FetFest 2013! I will be there all weekend as part of Dungeon setup crew, and hope to see many faces I haven't seen in a long time! Hooray!
I'm sorry. I can't help Myself. I had to come back. I couldn't leave you all without My annoyingly verbose updates. How would you survive? *wink*
Things are very slowly returning to normalcy. Thanks to all of the people who have reached out to Me in support of this nutty period of My life. I should be back to normal operating status by the end of the month! I'm still not taking same-day in-calls to the dungeon, but I will take 24h advance notice for them. Meanwhile, My out-calls remain available on a same-day notice.
First things first, thank you to everyone who showed to My Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex class, as well as My all-day demos for InsideOut Old City. Mega-thanks to My amazing demo bottom, suspension bunny, and amazing PR goddess, Marthamatic, as well as to anyone who came out for this fun day! Here are some delightful pictures to entertain you!
No wonder I get branded as the "rope guy" everywhere I go. If there are ever too many pictures of Me doing something, it's probably suspending people. I can't help it!
I am also blessed to have some wonderful friends and play partners who always keep a smile on My face when I am down. It is thanks to them that I have not lost My smile.
In fact, I just recently received a visit from My friends Kara, Nevaahe, and Stark. We have not seen each other since 2006, and seeing them was an amazing experience. It's true that we make few friends in our short time on this Earth. I am happy to count these three among Mine. Sadly, a picture is not the best thing I could put up, seeing how I'd have to blur all faces due to sensitive vanilla-related issues. Still find it quite funny that we were friends back when we were 13-14, and now we're all kinky, and still friends. Great minds think alike!
I also have to thank Katts, who lets Me beat him mercilessly at Asylum 13 every week (except for last night, which made Me sad faced... more on that later), an activity which brings Me an immense amount of psychological well-being. Some three weeks ago, the wonderful Rhino Photography, lead photographer of the event, took some truly amazing shots of a shared scene with Gabriel Drax. Here are a few of My favorites:
I'm not sure Katts knows how grateful I am to him and his girlfriend for letting Me do all this with him. As I have mentioned, we were in the process of negotiating some video work a while back, and I am happy to say that I indeed will be filming with him, hopefully two or three scenes by the end of the month. So yay! I need to remember to control My play though. I get a little overenthusiastic sometimes, which is exactly why his girlfriend punished him and didn't let him play with Me this week. What can I say, I got a little out of hand last week:
See that face? That's masochistic ecstasy, right there.I had a stupid grin on My face for at least five days. And he had a nasty scratch on his stomach, courtesy of My bear claws. And apparently, the crucifix scratch in his chest just faded a couple of days ago. Whoopsy tootsy!
So I was going to have a little more fun last night, but then he informed Me (very cutely, may I add) that his girlfriend was a bit miffed at how hard I went on him last week, and didn't want us playing this week. That's more of a punishment on Me, dammit!
Add to the fact that I was supposed to see a visitor last night (the awesome plan involved Me locking up his cock, chaining him to the bed leg, and then sleeping in said bed while he remained on the floor), but he ended up falling asleep before I got there... and no play for Me. So I have been a bit out of My mind all day with sadistic ideas and generally kinky thoughts...
...which lead Me to consider running a nantaimori night sometime soon. Who doesn't enjoy naked men? Who doesn't enjoy sushi? Obviously, the combination of these two things would be quite perfect. I am not too shabby at sushi preparation, and this would be a lovely chance for Me to run a dinner-style event Myself, an idea which I've been toying with. And did I mention the naked men?
I already have lofty, unrealistic plans, so I guess things are working out after all. Stay tuned. Oh, and I'll be at The Aviary, tomorrow night. See you there, fellow kinksters!
So guess who had a very successful rope class? That's right, I did! Thanks to all who attended. I will definitely now do a 202 class for those who attended and those wishing to learn techniques above elementary rope. Here are a couple of pictures:
As My demo, I used the lovely and lithe Katts who was a wonderful sport, even when I teased him a bit. He did very good, and I am quite proud of him. We also discussed video work together and both him and his girlfriend seemed game, so keep your eye out for some hot clips featuring a lot of beating mixed with a good bit of this:
I'm such a horrible tease. And I'm going to fuck that beautiful skinny straight boy up. Look, doesn't My collar already look perfect on him?
By the way, if you've not gone either to the First Friday demo or the rope class, you are missing out. In fact, since Kink Shoppe is not too far from Me, I'm often there just hanging out and playing with Myself a good deal. I mean, BY Myself, excuse Me. In fact, I recently did a little compilation on YouTube of different people's Vine videos which I found and put together.
As you can see, you've been missing a lot of things.
Just last night, I went to the Bike Stop, where a gentleman was celebrating his 31st birthday. Because I always have My toys with Me when I go out, I gave him a sound birthday beating. However, I went past thirty-one, because the little painslut was really loving it. After 45, I realized that another few hits might have been more than he bargained for in the morning, so I did stop. I did have a great amount of fun though, and was complimented by a few nice gentlemen on My lovely form.
It did remind Me of something that I have mentioned repeatedly, although most FetLifers know this already: if I have not felt it first, I do not dish it. I will always bottom at least once to what I top with.
In fact, on very rare occasions, when things aren't going very well for Me in the great turmoil that is My brainmeats, I will seek peace and quietude by taking pain, usually in an unusual situation or setting. This is exactly what I did on Thursday at Asylum 13, when I suspended Myself upside down and blindfolded, and let Gabriel Drax, organizer and grand pasha of flogging, beat Me with his particularly nasty dragontail. The results, as can be seen on the left, were harsh (at least for Me, who does not enjoy pain per se). But what was nice was the bit of mental peace that followed. See? This is exactly what happens when you don't follow Me around: I get half naked and writhe about like sandtrout, and you have no clue until it's too late. Oh well.
So what has My brainmeats in turmoil? A couple things. First, the computer I have been using since My own computer exploded is going back to its rightful owner. I have been using it for four months now, and it has served Me very well, but all good things must come to an end.
I do own two other computers, so I will still be posting, booking sessions, and making Myself available regularly to answer questions and fill the internet with My babble, but that is not the issue:
In short, it looks like My fetish pornography empire is not going to be as prolific as I thought. It's always one step forward and two steps back. I'm getting really fucking sick of all this bullshit which interrupts My groove.
Let's also add to that issue the fact that some pretty pernicious rumors have been started about Me, which are causing Me strife and calling My morality and motives in question. So I'll speak to two people right now publicly:
To Individual Number One: If someone claims I said something, the correct action to do is to directly come to Me an confront Me like an adult. I have no interest in lying to anyone, as that take away from My well-known neutrality. It's what I have based My entire reputation on, so trust, it's not going to shift any time soon. Also, I have quite the way with words, and those who have taken even five minutes of their lives to know Me can easily distinguish things I say from things others claim I say. I also have no interest in shitting where I eat, by the way.
This next bit is to Individual Number Two, and had no bearing on what I said to Number One: If you decide that you are going to be a negative force trying to destroy Me (either because you do not like Me or are jealous of Me), be assured that I will find you. And I will ruin every bit of your life. Your very name will be a synonym for distrust, unfaithfulness, and damage; and I will make it My personal pleasure to make sure that your very existence as an agent of anything good is destroyed, even across oceans. And if you don't think that can happen, try Me, bitch.
Yelan abo taareesak to a good portion of the scene, by the way. Before speaking, be sure that My eyes and ears are not around. It's the least you can do before digging your own grave.
I had a lovely chat with Goddess Cleo earlier today, and while I stated I did not wish to return to England just yet, I'm now really considering it: I miss London a great deal. Now that was a place where people were honest and upfront, and where social standing was based purely on skill and knowledge, not who you rub elbows with or gossip about.
Now if you will excuse Me, I have a party to get ready for and attend.
All is quiet. Well, not really, but I am already way to talky. So I'll attempt to keep this post shorter than the unabridged version of Moby Dick.
Asylum 13, as usual, an absolute delight. Here are some recent pictures as well as a new video on YouTube that I can't be bothered to embed:
On left, getting some drinks into the birthday girl. On right, upside down flying with Arwen.
Katts is a sexy pony... who wants to see him get beaten?
Speaking of YouTube, have you seen My account lately? You might have missed the recent additions to it of a short clip of My brand being done as well as another shortie of Me goofing off while cleaning dildos and buttplugs. I am trying to dispel this nasty rumor that I don't have a sense of humor. I do have a sense of humor, it just tends to be at the expense of others.
xHamster has finally approved Me as a content producer, so please update your bookmarks from My old xTube account to this new xHamster account, which I will be filling in these next few days. I have also update most of the website to reflect both My new video sites. Any other Studio wanting to do a banner exchange can do so by e-mailing Me their banner and taking one off My site. If you'd rather the banner link feature primarily My Studio as opposed to My general site, just save this one instead (be sure to save the full sized version):
So all the stuff I have been stressing about has been slowly coming together. Perhaps I need not be so impatient. You know what I need? I back massage and a proper drink. Any takers? I've been a busy recluse, perhaps I will go to the Bike Stop a couple of times this week.
Recently, I have come across exceptional service. For example, I had a wondrous time at the Aviary last Saturday with Jynx. I had known and played with him before, but it's only lately that I've taken particular interest. I find him to be quite the adept when it comes to service, and I was quite glad to have him with Me for the evening. He keeps a smile on My face. As one can see by this picture, we had a pretty intense scene together involving claws, cups, and a variety of corporal implements.
As usual, I have to remind some people that the s-types I play on a personal level with all have a strong masochistic streak, and a high tolerance for what I can dish out. Clearly I have a lower range I can play in, and I don't expect newcomers or non-masochists to be able to handle this type of play. But you are reading My blog, which is about My day-to-day life and play. I don't always pull out a camera in session, so a lot of what you will see here includes some of My more intense personal scenes. If you find that My is play batshit insane, you can opt for something a little less "shocking." I am not particularly extreme.
In fact, I had what one would consider a much tamer scene the very next night with a good friend, Echo of Echo's Fire. We had a great time with some bondage, breath control, light knife play, and wax. I took an incidental picture or two, and since he's quite a lovely-bodied boy, I figure I'd share. Pretty things should be displayed, Methinks. I just have a strange concept of them sometimes! And so I leave you with a pic of this pretty thing, and I think we can both agree on that.
I have been busy today, and even sent in all of My paperwork to My Clips4Sale Studio some hours ago, but they still have not approved Me. They did say the process would take up to 24h from sending in the correct paperwork, but I guess I was a bit overanticipating the whole thing, and figured it would be done by now.
No matter, these things happened. Now I have to run and finish getting ready for Asylum 13, because I'm getting picked up in less than an hour.
Did you know I am still without a home computer? No, you did not. But I am magical, which is how I keep these updates going.
I am happy to report that My Saturday rope class was a great success! Thank you to everyone who showed up. I hope you guys picked up the foundations you need to start out in the wonderful world of rope bondage. Special thanks to the Sexploratorium for their space and the kick-ass sign they made to advertise the class, pictured here on the left. Did you want to attend, but found yourself unable to due to time constraints? Not to worry, I will be hopefully running this class a couple more times for those who missed the first time.
Also, I'd like to thank My lovely partner in bondage, Mistress Gwen, who was so kind to let Me tie Her up in order to demonstrate to students how some things need to be tied. As usual, self-shot images of Me with a partner have us looking like raving maniacs. Which is why you love Us and want Us. I can understand that. I'd want Us too! For more info on Mistress Gwen, check out Her page on the Destiny's Chamber website by clicking on the link above. Her great sense of humor and infectious laughter will put you right as ease when you meet her... but Her unpredictable nature and deadly skill set will make even the most steadfast slaves tremble in fear.
In other news, I had a very stimulating session just yesterday with the same fellow who came to see Me a couple weeks ago... this time, we headed down the CBT and sounding route before I destroyed his ass with a nine-inch piece. This one is quite sizable, but why stop here. We will be sizing up the next time I see him... I'd love to eventually get him nice and stretched to a point where I can insert Biggie Smalls, my thick chocolate 14-incher, deep into his entrails. Mind you, I may destroy asses, but at least I do it while looking classy as fuck:
I am indeed one dapper gentleman, even while you are begging and moaning like a whore on the floor, your body pushed to it's limits as I extract sweet control from you.
Apparently, he thought so too, and brought Me a fun little toy that got to see a bit of action that evening: a steel ballcrusher! I know your boys are crawling up inside your body cavity, dear reader, when you take a look at this punishing tool. Ah, no matter. As anyone who has come to see Me can tell you, I might be a sadistic bastard, but you will come willingly.
A smile, a whisper, a kind touch... why would you not suffer the very depths of Hell itself to please Me? Do you think you can trek there alone? You must be quite brave... for in My hands I hold the keys to your darkest suffering and to your most blissful pleasures. And those who endure My trials are greatly rewarded at the finish line.
I am sure a few of you wonder what happens to those who do not endure My trials or please Me satisfactorily. If said behavior happens in the dungeon or local to Me, the solution is quite simple: the offender is not invited back to the dungeon. However, if the behavior happens remotely, I have no problem calling the little rats out publicly (as I have shown previously, most notably here and here). Funny enough, the French boy I have called out in both of the mentioned posts has yet again proved himself to be very disappointing. And as I previously warned him, another misstep and I will drop it like it's hot. But his behavior has been so disappointing that I cannot even be bothered to put up his personal information. All I can do is let other Dominants know that this Parisian schoolteacher is a pathetic little whore who cannot follow directions. I woke up in a good mood this morning, and so I will not be exposing is face for the world to see... at least not today. Let's hope My mood doesn't shift in the next few hours. For now, enjoy My stoic face while he wanks and fingerfucks himself for the world... right in his mother's house!
English Translation: I'm sorry, dear Mika. Did you want Me to remove this picture? Maybe even the video, or the other pictures I have collected? Then you can do so by showing you have some use in this world: take a look at My wishlist and find a gift suitable for a real Man, and I will consider returning your anonymity to you.
Ah. I love it when boys disobey and find themselves realizing that I do not play games. Life can be so hard, sometimes. Not for Me. For them.
I am happy to say that I am FINALLY in the process of rendering My videos out, starting with a nice piece I've named "Kiddo's First Checkup." The reason editing has been taking so long is due to the fact that I shoot on a dead format, and access to computers that still take said format is limited. Add that to the fact that FCP10 has trouble running on said older machines, and things are taking way longer than they should. Once these files are finally done, I will run them by the proper channels, collect My 2257s, and upload them. Be sure to keep an eye out for previews and updates! Since I still don't have one ready, I have chosen to quell your hunger for pain with these six screenshots from "Kiddo's First Checkup." These are not part of the final stills collection, just ones I captured during editing. Enjoy!
