I am Sir Brian, professional and lifestyle Dominant in Philadelphia, PA. Welcome to Wicket Wanderlust II, where you can find sessions stories, video previews, community information, and insight into the world of BDSM. This blog and connected site are 18+ only, kinky, LGBTQ-friendly, sex-positive and probably non-vegan. Experience service at BrianOfthelost.com
Here are My event updates for November! Since this is My birthday month, I am taking it easy and not really headed out to many events, at least not very public ones.
My calendar has been updated for October. I notice that I often fail to post updates here, but know that the Upcoming Events page on My website has a full schedule posted every month.
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - Philly Trans* March
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - The Aviary
Sunday, October 11th, 2015 - Old City Fest
Thursday, October 15th, 2015 - So You Think You're Kinky
Friday, October 16th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes: Intro to Rope Bondage
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - From Harness to Hogtie: Intermediate Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for July. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Saturday, July 11th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, July 17th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, July 18th, 2015 - 3rd Annual Kink D'Soleil
Sunday, July 19th, 2015 - Professional Dominants Brunch
Sunday, July 19th, 2015 - Philadelphia Community Picnic
My calendar has been updated for May. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, May 1st, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, May 8th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, May 9th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, May 15th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Sunday, May 17th, 2015 - Professional Dominants Brunch
This is also a great moment to do an early announcement! Mark your calendars for June 6th, as that will be the night of Philadelphia Fetish and Bootblack 2015, at which I will be competing! Come and cheer Me on!
My calendar has been updated for April. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, April 3rd, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, April 10th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, April 11th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, April 17th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, April 18th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes; Intro to Rope Bondage
My calendar has been updated for March. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, March 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Friday, March 13th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
The past month has seen Me very busy in My personal life, and so I have not been updating things at all. New content policies on Blogger have been switching on and then back off, which has also slowed Me down. At least I have a backup blog now, in case this one is taken down for some reason. I'll be updating soon.
My calendar has been updated for February. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Friday, February 6th, 2015 - TNG Munch
Thursday, February 12th, 2015 - The Aviary Munch
Saturday, February 14th, 2015 - The Aviary
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - Panel: Yes, It Still Works
Thursday, February 19th, 2015 - BDSM 101: Navigating the Jungle of Power Dynamics
Friday, February 20th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, February 21st, 2015 - Picking Up the Rope: Intro to Rope Bondage
Sunday, February 22nd, 2015 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
These past 2 months have been crazy. With the holiday period and events happening, I've been slacking off. The past month saw Me with computer issues that were only fixed as of this morning. But now, all is done! Whee! Be prepared for the following in 2015:
New videos! A hitachi edging video and a hypnotic poppers trainer are currently in My edit cue. A few more sexy surprises are also coming...
New events! AndroShare will be making a comeback in February, and I'll be giving a talk for Sex Week at Lafayette university the same month.
New toys! Christmas and My birthday have brought Me some goodies. I'll be sharing some of those, as I tend to do.
New stories! Session retellings, lifestyle essays, and scene information will make it on Wicked Wanderlust II this year.
Although I had said I would not be individually pushing events, but as a member, I would like to take a couple of lines to invite you all to the Black and Gold Ball. The inaugural project for prospects of new local leather club Queer Leather Alliance is a night of leather fun and education, including mini workshops such as Queering Leather. Sex Toys for Queer Bodies, Flagging 101, and Power Exchange Basics. There will also be a Fashion Show and performances featuring the Liberty City Kings. So come, and join in on the fun! We will also be raffling off a basket, "A Taste of Queer Philadelphia," which will contain a ticket for a 2-hour session of either play or education with Yours Truly. Sessions a little bit pricy for you? Now's your chance to get one and give back to the community, all at once! Finally, there will also be bootblacks and a pet playground all night, so all you boot sluts and pups will be well served as well!
I know I've been away, and you've been terribly lonely. But I also know you know better than to complain... or you'll get your cock crushed under My feet. Like this poor fellow:
--- My January schedule can be found here. Suspension Night is this Friday. The Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch is next Sunday. The Black and Gold Ball is on January 31st.
I'd like to think that I kicked off My birthday week with Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, and will be closing with a weekend of personal fun between events, as I share My birthday with My lover, one day apart.
That's right. His birthday is on Friday, while Mine is on Saturday. I wanted to stop in briefly for a couple of photos and ramblings. Last week ended with an email from San Diego from a boy just begging to be manipulated. I took his credit card shopping for a couple new things for Saturday's Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, where I manned a table for the upcoming Diabolique Ball 2014: Viva La Revolution! The second floor of Voyeur was turned into Der Karneval Diabolique, where I awaited with Goddess Thain to beat you up and tie you down! The stations were there to raise awareness for Diabolique, coming up on November 21st. I will be performing at this annual charity ball with Iris Enchanted to bring you a sexy look at the French Revolution... Marie Antoinette thinks she can sit in Versailles all day as the people of France starve... Well, we'll show her!
I also wanted to show off the following two books I picked up at the silent auction of PLPN, A first edition of Jon Jacobs, William D. Brame, and Gloria Brame's Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission as well as a first edition of The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. Huzzah! I always approve of new books for My collection of fetish and BDSM reading. I've been considering adding new ones to My wishlist, such as this little gem. Snagged that one off someone's private wishlist... that's why you don't give your passwords to strangers.
I've been somewhat reclusive for the past month or so, and have been relatively occupied. I still have more to do. Changes, projects, classes. Starting in December, I will be running My Intro to Rope class every 3rd Saturday of the month at Kink Shoppe, seeing how there is a high demand for it. I really want to present at SEXx 2015, but have not handled a large room for a class as a presenter, and am not yet confident in My ability to lead a course on bondage for more than 15 people at a time. So perhaps next year. :-D
I am meeting with a potential new video boy this upcoming week. Should the meeting go well, hopefully new videos will be on the way. Since I have been busy with other things, and the few shoot I have scheduled cancelled, My Clips4Sale store has fallen into disrepair. Hopefully, some new clips will be put up soon. I have a lot of ideas, and since I'm a little bit strange, I was thinking of exploring some of the more interesting fetishes out there, from macrophilia to immurement fantasies. I'm still looking to edge a bound superhero in a lycra bodysuit and alien impregnate a twink, so if you'd be interested, dear reader, why not shoot Me a message, hm?
The next week is going to be pretty be interesting and fun. And why not make it extra fun for Me? It is My birthday, after all, and birthdays are supposed to be a good time. So why not go on and head over to My wishlists and take a look? I have one for all the playthings I want, one for books of all sorts, one for underwear, boots, and other clothes, and a random one, just because. So you are going to head over to one of them, and find something you think I could particularly use. Hell, there's even priority items. And you're going to have something sent to Me, perhaps with a little note wishing Me a happy birthday. It is after all, a momentous occasion.
My calendar has been updated for November. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
Monday, November 3rd, 2014 - The Aviary Munch
Friday, November 7th, 2014 - TNG Munch
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - The Aviary
Saturday, November 8th, 2014 - Philadelphia Leather Pride Night
Saturday, November 15th, 2014 - My Birthday!
Friday, November 21st, 2014 - Suspension Night @ The Kink Shoppe
Friday, November 21st, 2014 · Diabolique 2014: Viva La Revolution!
Saturday, November 22nd, 2014 · Diabolique Brunch
Sunday, November 23rd, 2014 - Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch
My calendar has been updated for September. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
The warm weather always brings Me a flurry of activity. I suspect the general atmosphere of late spring is actually quite beneficial to My general self.
First, I'd like to thank the folk who showed up to AndroShare: Spanking as Punishment. The goal of AndroShare was to get guys in a room together to talk. Because God knows, guys don't like to talk to each other, and I'll be damned if this has to go on like this. So I always like it when people come to these skillshares, because communication is key. With that said, Monday June 9th is the next installment... AndroShare: Rough Body Play. So come out for some fighting and kicking folks about! Please share and respond on Facebook and FetLife, as this is how information gets passed around!
Also, a major thank you to the folks who came out to both of My rope bondage classes. I always end up seeing a lot of people wanting to learn intro to rope, and that class always turns out full. It's nice to see a bunch of folks grab some basics. Yay education!
In other news, I met an individual recently from Los Angeles. Quite a nice fellow, and a kindred dark mind. Said fellow made the keen observation that a man of My stature not only would look fantastic in boots, but deserves such boots. I was a bit adamant at first: I have highly specific tastes, and I wanted to make sure that if this fellow was going to buy Me boots, they were going to look like they were made for Me. And so, My keen eye his recommendation found a pair that seemed fit.
I would say he made a good choice, didn't he? I mean, clearly these are boots that look like they exist to be on My feet. And I like useful things. And boots are useful, for walking. The decision was obviously clear. And so, he expended a small sum to make sure that the boots ended up in their rightful place.
Very eager to try the boots on and do a "field test" with them, I grabbed My lover, turned a camera on and put it off to the side, and we made magic. I am now beginning a new clip series named "Bedroom Eyes."
I wanted to try filming some clips with a more voyeuristic look, and no camera operator, particularly to capture the experience with My personal partners. The first attempt at this results in a 28-minute clip full of mild-medium boot play and boot worship, available on My Clips4Sale Studio, Carnaval Decadent. All the kicking, scraping, trampling and licking you could want, without it being too much for the newcoming voyeur.
You see, when you existence means little besides your ability to please another, then that's just what you should do. This LA fellow knew that boots belong on My feet (or his face), and so he provided. And in doing that, he has put Me in a good mood. And when I'm in a good mood, I get productive and post things, which in turn, benefits everyone who comes to find out things through Me.
There are some 22 free still available from the video on My FetLife photo page, with another 46 private ones, that will likely make it into an image collection at one point. Yay private stills! For now, here are My five favorite free ones:
I think this is the first in a series, as I personally really enjoyed how it turned out. You should likely check it out for yourself. I think the boots are excellent. Victor thought so as well, particularly against his ribs. :-D
I am still working on My June schedule. It's such a busy time, with Philly Pride, warm weather sessions, and general hustle-bustle that I'm still trying to work out My calendar! But as I said, this time keeps Me looking in the immediate, and I try not to plan ahead too much (I've had three newcomer sessions in the past two weeks, and have another scheduled for next Saturday... you try planning). However, there are some things that are for sure... I will be attending PrideDay 2014 in some capacity, I will definitely be out at the Trans* Health Conference, and you can catch Me at the Aviary, Suspension Night, and Asylum events as usual. Some things are bound to change, so be sure to check the link above for specific, which will be updated if things change.
I have no idea what else I was going to babble on. So that's it for now.
The Aviary was this Saturday, and I was in a shitty headspace. However, I have Goddess Thain to thank for pulling Me out of it with some 50 needles. Pictures coming soon.
OutFest 2013 was possibly one of the funnest times I've had recently. I arrived at Bazaar on Quince around 12:45 or so, and immediately started pulling out toys for some public play.
I got some pretty kick-ass pictures:
Towards the end of the afternoon, I was approached by Swedish blogger Gustav Andersson (from TheModernNomad.com) who shyly asked Me for a bit of play and a suspension. He was incredibly handsome and very sweet, so I obliged. At the time he approached Me, the frame was in use by Logical Paradox, so I pre-rigged him and asked him what he was interested in. After some light discussion on his interests, I did a little bit of light sensation play, which quickly graduated into some nipple torture. Having talked of his mild CBT interests, we moved on to binding his hands above his head and behind his back. Then, I pulled out My viper tongue, a nasty cross between a singletail whip and a dragon tail. I mercilessly hit him below the belt, and when I had driven him to his limit... I made him count down his ten final hits. He did so in that incredibly sexy Swedish language of his. We took a short break, and then I strung him up in an inverted suspension, where I continued to play with My claws and knives.
Playing with Gustav was a wonderful experience. The intensity of the scene was way up there, and we were being watched by a decently sized crowd. I was blessed to have Jackman and Pajaro Libre around, as they took some incredible pictures:
After the scene, I did some aftercare (mega thanks to Emrys for bringing him a blanket and a Peanut Chew). I was taken by surprise with how subdued he was, and how he held on tightly to Me. Aftercare is a very important part of play for Me, and always strikes Me strangely when I am in a setting where it is needed but not provided. I cannot play properly with a bottom, and will often deny play altogether, if I cannot provide them with aftercare. I have noticed that aftercare is often forgotten in the BDSM community, and even more so in the gay BDSM community. This saddens Me a great deal, as it is an essential part of play. I cannot speak for him, but it seemed that Gustav was almost surprised that I took time out to make sure he was OK and safe after his scene. He even told Emrys, when she brought him blanket and carbs, that "you guys really know how to care for a sub." Yay for all the feels.
I had an amazing time. Thank you all of you who came to OutFest, and anyone who came to My station for a little fun. I will definitely be back at the next pride event representing some BDSM love!
On to some other things:
Tomorrow is Asylum 13. YAY! Expect to see some Vines and more rope fun! Be sure to come down to Mojo 13 if you want to hear some hot beats and have some kinky fun!
Friday is Suspension Night at the Kink Shoppe! This is a great chance to come watch and/or experience rope suspension in a friendly, public environment. I will be there all night, as I tend to be, so be sure to come on up and talk to Me. Apparently, a secret source tells Me there will be cookies.
Next week is when you really want to be available, though...
Friday, October 25th, I am teaching Picking Up the Ropes, My introductory class to rope bondage.
The next day, Saturday 26th, is the Halloween Madness Masquerade Ball down at Mojo 13 again. There will be some awesome music, including Aesthetic Perfection, Nekronet, Die Sektor, Venal Flesh, and other wild industrial craziness. Come up and check out My awesome Halloween costume!
Finally, Sunday 27th, I will be back at the Kink Shoppe to teach My intermediate rope bondage class, From Harness to Hogtie. Come learn how to get kinky with some rope!
The links to the three events above lead to pages where you can read more about them and purchase advance tickets. Remember, you can always check what My upcoming events are on the Upcoming Events page of My website, or on My FetLife group!
Without a proper computer besides My tiny netbook and the ones that some friends have graciously allowed Me to use on occasion, updating much of anything is a bit hard. So I'll keep this one short and to the point. As mentioned in My last post, this lack of computer issue should be resolved soon.
Thanks to all who showed up to My spanking class at the end of last month at the Kink Shoppe! I will be teaching there again at the end of this month. Be sure to get your tickets early if you would like to attend the classes. Descriptions and links are on My website, but I have included them right here for your convenience. Tickets are $25 per person and $45 per couple. If you are signed up to the Kink Shoppe Newsletter, you get a lovely $5 off!
Picking Up the Ropes: Intro to Rope Bondage
Friday, October 25th, 2013 - 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM
Interested in rope bondage but intimidated by the mountain of information and techniques available? This simple workshop is designed to take you through the basic theories of rope bondage and teach you the commonly used ties that will be the foundation for all of your rope work to come. From cuffs to harnesses, from public corsets to private sexy rope... relax! You don't have to be a boy scout to keep your partner nice and secure! It is highly recommended you bring at least 15' of rope for this workshop (ideally, one 30' length and two 15' lengths). Rope is available for purchase at Kink Shoppe, and class attendees receive a same-day, one-time 10% discount on any purchase made.
Sunday, October 27th, 2013 - 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM
So you know your rope basics: you've tied a cuff of two, you've made some cool rope gauntlets, and you have a grasp on how to restrain your partner's limbs. What next? Join Me as I take you through how to tie harnesses, limb restraints, hogties, and decorative ties that will keep your partner nice and secure for long nights to come. It is recommended you attend Picking Up the Ropes first if you are not familiar with basic ties and practice. The following concepts should be known to ensure you can keep up: nerve locations, rope extension, square knot, belt lock, corset tie, Sommerville Bowline (single and double). There will be a 15-minute review of these concepts at the beginning of the workshop. It is highly recommended you bring at least one 30' length and two 15' length of rope for this workshop (ideally, two 30' length and four 15' lengths). Rope is available for purchase at Kink Shoppe, and class attendees receive a same-day, one-time 10% discount on any purchase made.
I do hope to see you folks there! The BDSM community stays active thanks to continuing education about it. So come visit, learn how to get knotty, and show your support!
Negotiations with Kink Shoppe are currently taking place to teach My introduction to needle play class, "Just a Pinch." Upon piercing Leggatt at Aviary, I remembered just how much I enjoy needle play (especially with such a hunky needle bottom!). Recently, he came by My house and we did some more needles: I always like to sharpen My skills, and he always likes to take more. The result was quite stunning, so I thought I should share it with you, on the right.
Isn't that awesome? And we just keep putting more and more in, every time we meet. Be prepared for some more awesome very soon.
This month, I will also be attending The Aviary (this Saturday), so if you want to come to one of Philadelphia's best play parties, be sure to pop in! As usual, I will be Dungeon Monitoring for a portion of the evening, and will loudly screech if I see any wrongdoing... play safe, folks. In a strange turn of events, I will also be attending Bazaar on Quince this year, which will take place this Sunday (October 13th), and running a suspensions and corporal punishment station! For those not aware, Bazaar on Quince is part of Outfest, one of Philadelphia's three annual pride events. I'll be there promoting The Aviary and answering questions about BDSM and the lifestyle in general. Do come by and say hello!
I know some of you have really been dying to see the new videos I shot recently with Katts. They are still being edited, a little at a time, as computers are made available to Me. To keep you aroused and panting, here are two awesome photos that were taken in between scenes that we filmed...
Reviewing what was captured, these are the scenes that will be up soon:
Katts gets told off for having a girl in his room. As punishment, he is locked in a chastity cage and tickle-tortured mercilessly.
A hard flogging that leaves Katts barely able to stand.
Over the knee spanking that moves on to paddling, eventually leading to Katts crawling on the floor as I cane his very red ass.
Katts is introduced to electro play for the first time and barely makes it five minutes.
I am trying to get them done as fast as I can, so be sure to keep an eye on this blog and on My FetLife and FetishMen page for updates!
Also, a shoutout: just a couple days ago, someone I'll name Chokeboy came to visit Me at the dungeon. I had known him back from when I was working at the International House of Pain, and he went AWOL for a while. I was very surprised to hear from him again, but glad! It's been a year since I last saw him... welcome back, Chokeboy!
Finally... My birthday is coming up November 15th! Do you want to please Me? Do you want to see your adoration and hard work put to use? Then I suggest you make My birthday memorable by taking a look at My Wishlist and finding something suitable for Me. As usual, if you do good, I will be sure to send you some personalized photographs of how much I enjoy the fruits of your labor, and give you a little nod on this blog. Take a look. Why wouldn't you?
And a great Aviary, where Stitch came out to his first public event. And there was much rejoicing. The new Katts POV vids will be edited and uploaded next week. Why is this?
Because I am enjoying three days of kinky goodness at The Floating World, where I am blogging from today. I arrived in Edison, NJ at 7 PM with Lady Rez. I will not be vending for Echo's Fire after all, but I will be your friendly Dungeon Monitor late night on Saturday, as well as a late morning and nighttime on Sunday. Drop in and say hi!
As far as today, I just wasn't feeling to well, so I just tried to keep to Myself. However, that means more time to plan for tomorrow. :-)
Also, it seems I have found a way to FetFest 2013! I will be there all weekend as part of Dungeon setup crew, and hope to see many faces I haven't seen in a long time! Hooray!
I have been ridiculously busy these days, which I suppose is a good thing. I had a wonderful visitor last week who brought Me much joy and pleasure! I had been meaning to write up some of My session, but there is no rest for the wicked. However, here are some pretty intense and NSFW pictures of his pained cock. He was a handsome, Sean Penn-looking fellow who made some pretty interesting sounds... since I took pictures, I also had a chance to take a brief video!
Yes, that's blood on his balls. Whoopsy tootsy! Bah, he had a lot of fun, I'm sure. Actually, he did mention the next day that it was a great time. I do hope I get to see him again. The little whimpers of pain were incredibly entertaining, and I would enjoy hearing them again. And of course, since he doesn't mind pictures being taken, I'm always game for that as well.
Asylum 13 is, as always, a blast every Thursday. Last one saw a pretty awesome double inverted suspension by Me, which I managed to capture on My phone and upload to YouTube. Seriously, folks, there is nothing better to do every Thursday night in DE. Come and fly with Me!
My video shooting is delayed, as always. I am full of plans, but not so much action. This is because of all of the changes happening around Me and in My own life. Chances are, return to fully operational status will not occur for at least another three to six months.
I am, however, ecstatic to announce that I will be attending The Floating World this year, where I will be vending for Echo's Fire for the entire weekend. Since the vending stations are not open during the evenings of the event, I will have full availability for sessions, microclasses, and just for discussions. As of right now, I have not been booked, and have not made any private plans. If you are signed up to go to this event this year, be sure to seek Me out and have a chat with Me! I will be bringing My usual arsenal of rope, needles, knives, and more
Due to My psychotic previous roommate having effectively swindled Me for almost a grand, I will not be attending FetFest 2013. I have gone to FetFest the past two years, since it began, and I am extremely sad that I will not be able to be there this year. The moronic asscunt I lived with made sure of that. However, being bitter is not going to really get Me far. I have until August 24th to register. Most likely, I will not be doing so. However, if you want a great chance to spend and entire weekend, day and night, in masochistic ecstasy with Me, and you would consider purchasing an additional weekend pass, get in touch with Me. I will screen you for suitability, and should I find you to My liking, will spend the weekend with you in exchange for a ticket and event T-shirt (I have one from both past festivals, and intend on having one every year I go).
Finally, I am getting rid of a few of My things, and replacing them with items I have a greater need for. The main item I would like to offload is a plain black men's corset, size 32. Since I have lost some weight since purchasing it, I no longer need it, and would like to pass it on to anyone who may want to buy it off Me. It's a high quality piece, and has been worn less than 20 times in the past year and a half. If you are interested, feel free to e-mail Me. I will also be putting it up on the local Philadelphia barter boards. I am asking for either $75 in cash, or BDSM toy barter. Make an offer! You never know what I will take in exchange. A good way to see what I'm seeking in terms of barter is to look at My Amazon Wishlist by item priority.
I will also be selling a complete black CB-6000 set with extra rings and plastic locks, probably for $75 as well. This set will be cleaned with surgical grade cleaner and inventoried before being sold, but interested parties are welcome to inquire about it.
I am sure I had more to post up, but I'm spending the day with the boy Stitch, and he's working My nerves a good deal, because he wants a beating... so until I do that, I'm not going to be getting much done.
I would like to move away from the love letter to Myself that is this blog briefly to address a serious issue: consent
Too many times I hear horror stories of submissive men and women being subjected to nonconsensual abuse, simply because they believe that the adage "the Dominant is always right" is some kind of grandiose golden commandment of BDSM. A most recent story I heard involves a submissive boy being ordered to not speak in any capacity about his relationship with his Femdom to anyone else in the scene. When he protested, she answered simply that her word is law. I don't know about you, but that strikes up a major red flag for Me. Abuse often starts with the isolation of the victim. Needless to say, he is no longer in service to her, and I hope he has learned a valuable lesson.
I am going to say this yet again: the power behind BDSM lies in the fact that all activities are performed under consent. Anything else is abuse. If you truly believe that submissives have no rights, GO HOME. You lack the intellectual maturity to play this game.
A while ago, I stumbled across a document called "The boy's Bill of Rights." It perfectly encompassed what I felt about this issue, but it was very homo-centric. Contrary to popular belief, I rank between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey scale (meaning that I am predominantly homosexual, but not exclusively so), and felt that these points could benefit from a tad bit of gender neutrality.
And so, here is My revised version, the submissive's Bill of Rights. Dominants are encouraged to post this to tell subs that They care about their rights, and subs are equally encouraged, to show others that they have no tolerance for abuse.
Every submissive has the right to have their body, intellect, and emotions protected by their Dominant.
Every submissive has the right to choose the Dominant whom they serve and to discontinue that service and take their leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
Every submissive has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in their submission.
Every submissive has the right to protected sex if they so wish.
Every submissive has the right to privacy if they so wish. No submissive can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without their expressed desire to be so.
Every submissive has the right to defend themselves from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
Every submissive has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
Every submissive has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other submissives and Dominants without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
Every submissive has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
Every submissive has the right to protect their own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.
So guess who had a very successful rope class? That's right, I did! Thanks to all who attended. I will definitely now do a 202 class for those who attended and those wishing to learn techniques above elementary rope. Here are a couple of pictures:
As My demo, I used the lovely and lithe Katts who was a wonderful sport, even when I teased him a bit. He did very good, and I am quite proud of him. We also discussed video work together and both him and his girlfriend seemed game, so keep your eye out for some hot clips featuring a lot of beating mixed with a good bit of this:
I'm such a horrible tease. And I'm going to fuck that beautiful skinny straight boy up. Look, doesn't My collar already look perfect on him?
By the way, if you've not gone either to the First Friday demo or the rope class, you are missing out. In fact, since Kink Shoppe is not too far from Me, I'm often there just hanging out and playing with Myself a good deal. I mean, BY Myself, excuse Me. In fact, I recently did a little compilation on YouTube of different people's Vine videos which I found and put together.
As you can see, you've been missing a lot of things.
Just last night, I went to the Bike Stop, where a gentleman was celebrating his 31st birthday. Because I always have My toys with Me when I go out, I gave him a sound birthday beating. However, I went past thirty-one, because the little painslut was really loving it. After 45, I realized that another few hits might have been more than he bargained for in the morning, so I did stop. I did have a great amount of fun though, and was complimented by a few nice gentlemen on My lovely form.
It did remind Me of something that I have mentioned repeatedly, although most FetLifers know this already: if I have not felt it first, I do not dish it. I will always bottom at least once to what I top with.
In fact, on very rare occasions, when things aren't going very well for Me in the great turmoil that is My brainmeats, I will seek peace and quietude by taking pain, usually in an unusual situation or setting. This is exactly what I did on Thursday at Asylum 13, when I suspended Myself upside down and blindfolded, and let Gabriel Drax, organizer and grand pasha of flogging, beat Me with his particularly nasty dragontail. The results, as can be seen on the left, were harsh (at least for Me, who does not enjoy pain per se). But what was nice was the bit of mental peace that followed. See? This is exactly what happens when you don't follow Me around: I get half naked and writhe about like sandtrout, and you have no clue until it's too late. Oh well.
So what has My brainmeats in turmoil? A couple things. First, the computer I have been using since My own computer exploded is going back to its rightful owner. I have been using it for four months now, and it has served Me very well, but all good things must come to an end.
I do own two other computers, so I will still be posting, booking sessions, and making Myself available regularly to answer questions and fill the internet with My babble, but that is not the issue:
In short, it looks like My fetish pornography empire is not going to be as prolific as I thought. It's always one step forward and two steps back. I'm getting really fucking sick of all this bullshit which interrupts My groove.
Let's also add to that issue the fact that some pretty pernicious rumors have been started about Me, which are causing Me strife and calling My morality and motives in question. So I'll speak to two people right now publicly:
To Individual Number One: If someone claims I said something, the correct action to do is to directly come to Me an confront Me like an adult. I have no interest in lying to anyone, as that take away from My well-known neutrality. It's what I have based My entire reputation on, so trust, it's not going to shift any time soon. Also, I have quite the way with words, and those who have taken even five minutes of their lives to know Me can easily distinguish things I say from things others claim I say. I also have no interest in shitting where I eat, by the way.
This next bit is to Individual Number Two, and had no bearing on what I said to Number One: If you decide that you are going to be a negative force trying to destroy Me (either because you do not like Me or are jealous of Me), be assured that I will find you. And I will ruin every bit of your life. Your very name will be a synonym for distrust, unfaithfulness, and damage; and I will make it My personal pleasure to make sure that your very existence as an agent of anything good is destroyed, even across oceans. And if you don't think that can happen, try Me, bitch.
Yelan abo taareesak to a good portion of the scene, by the way. Before speaking, be sure that My eyes and ears are not around. It's the least you can do before digging your own grave.
I had a lovely chat with Goddess Cleo earlier today, and while I stated I did not wish to return to England just yet, I'm now really considering it: I miss London a great deal. Now that was a place where people were honest and upfront, and where social standing was based purely on skill and knowledge, not who you rub elbows with or gossip about.
Now if you will excuse Me, I have a party to get ready for and attend.
What a wondrous week it all was. So here we demonstrate!
Asylum 13 saw Me hand over My suspension point to another rigger last Thursday. I had had a very busy day, one that also took a bit of a mental toll on Me, so I chose to not suspend people that evening, and chose to spend it with Katts, beautiful masochist and future star in one of My fetish films (I'd love a full-length with him). Pictures of said kink debauchery will be shown here when the photographers publish their next set of Asylum photos on Facebook. You should really be a fan of Asylum 13 of Facebook if you're not. That way, you could see all of them right when they come out!
I was less than pleased when First Friday turned to be an extremely rainy endeavor. I was however, overjoyed to see such a wonderful turnout of people braving the rain, as well as several volunteers. Thank you to Mistress Gwen Menace, and all who came to make this possible. Here's a very short video and a couple pictures:
Saturday night was The Aviary, and interestingly enough, I was not My usual swamped and scattered self. I had a great time with a newcomer to BDSM who had heard of Me and had come by to the event a couple of times before. I tied him up to the pillory and went to town... and I think even he will tell you it was quite a thrill.
Sunday was Philly Pride, and although I originally intended to march with the TNG group, My plans were disrupted by Kiddo and his partner, SF, who called Me an asked Me to come hang out with them. I must say, it was a most welcome distraction! Honestly, between hanging out with iCandy go-gos and playing with these two sexy maso-boys... well, I think the choice is simple.
I tied both of the boys together and has them use their strength to support each other through some sensory play and some corporal fun. It was very intense, particularly for Kiddo, and it lead to some great talk between them later during the day. See? I'm like therapy. Therapy that spreads your ass cheeks, flogs your back, and clamps your nipples.
I did make a brief stop in the Bike Stop for a drink on Sunday, but it was very brief. Last night, however, I went to meet a footslave early in the evening. We had a great chat. He bought Me a drink, and since I had been through a few busy days, I had him massage My feet in the middle of the bar. He did quite well. However, he did have to leave after a short while... but surprise surprise, I must be popular: he was quickly replaced by another boy who bought Me another drink, and quickly took over. This new boy however, showed a little less decorum, and found himself shirtless on the floor of the bar, one of My size 12W in his mouth, and the other in his hand. Hell, he was even sweet enough to lay back on the floor when I needed to get up, making a very effective trampling board.
Since he was a private fellow, I did not attempt to capture much on camera, but I got one pretty good picture of him rubbing one of My feet, while I teased him with the other. He was a handsome masochist, full of potential. His own life has led him a bit astray, but I hope his experience with Me last night will make him reconsider many of the choices he has taken, and will help him return to the place where he belongs, at a Dominant's feet. Yes, I'm totally expecting he is reading this, and will consider taking a new look at his life and where he wants to be. It's been missing for over 20 years, boy... don't you think it's time?
Finally, here is a VERY IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT:
Did you miss the introductory rope class I taught in April? Then you can come and take the same class (with some minor tweaks here and there) this upcoming Sunday at the Kink Shoppe! You can purchase the tickets online, and even let us know if you're attending on Facebook or FetLife!
The class will be on Sunday, June 16th 2013, from the hours of 7 PM to 9 PM. Tickets are priced at $25 if you get them in advance ($20 for seniors/students with ID or $45 for couples), and $30 on the day of. However, a little birdie told Me that if you are signed up to the Kink Shoppe e-mail newsletter, you get $5 off either price!
Again, it is highly suggested that you bring some rope, ideally one 30ft length as well as two 15ft lengths. However, there will be some practice rope available, and the store will be stocked with their own supply if you want to buy some. Their prices are excellent, and any purchase made on the day of the workshop will get you 10% off when you show your ticket (one-time use).
Come support Me and learn the foundations that will lead you down the path of rope. I will also be hanging around until closing after the course, so it's a good chance to chat Me up!
I am also soon going to be creating the follow-up classes, for those who want to learn the next level. Thinking the second course will be called "The Ladder, the Harness, and the Dragonfly: Using What You Know." Because I like fancy verbiage.
Did you know I am still without a home computer? No, you did not. But I am magical, which is how I keep these updates going.
I am happy to report that My Saturday rope class was a great success! Thank you to everyone who showed up. I hope you guys picked up the foundations you need to start out in the wonderful world of rope bondage. Special thanks to the Sexploratorium for their space and the kick-ass sign they made to advertise the class, pictured here on the left. Did you want to attend, but found yourself unable to due to time constraints? Not to worry, I will be hopefully running this class a couple more times for those who missed the first time.
Also, I'd like to thank My lovely partner in bondage, Mistress Gwen, who was so kind to let Me tie Her up in order to demonstrate to students how some things need to be tied. As usual, self-shot images of Me with a partner have us looking like raving maniacs. Which is why you love Us and want Us. I can understand that. I'd want Us too! For more info on Mistress Gwen, check out Her page on the Destiny's Chamber website by clicking on the link above. Her great sense of humor and infectious laughter will put you right as ease when you meet her... but Her unpredictable nature and deadly skill set will make even the most steadfast slaves tremble in fear.
In other news, I had a very stimulating session just yesterday with the same fellow who came to see Me a couple weeks ago... this time, we headed down the CBT and sounding route before I destroyed his ass with a nine-inch piece. This one is quite sizable, but why stop here. We will be sizing up the next time I see him... I'd love to eventually get him nice and stretched to a point where I can insert Biggie Smalls, my thick chocolate 14-incher, deep into his entrails. Mind you, I may destroy asses, but at least I do it while looking classy as fuck:
I am indeed one dapper gentleman, even while you are begging and moaning like a whore on the floor, your body pushed to it's limits as I extract sweet control from you.
Apparently, he thought so too, and brought Me a fun little toy that got to see a bit of action that evening: a steel ballcrusher! I know your boys are crawling up inside your body cavity, dear reader, when you take a look at this punishing tool. Ah, no matter. As anyone who has come to see Me can tell you, I might be a sadistic bastard, but you will come willingly.
A smile, a whisper, a kind touch... why would you not suffer the very depths of Hell itself to please Me? Do you think you can trek there alone? You must be quite brave... for in My hands I hold the keys to your darkest suffering and to your most blissful pleasures. And those who endure My trials are greatly rewarded at the finish line.
I am sure a few of you wonder what happens to those who do not endure My trials or please Me satisfactorily. If said behavior happens in the dungeon or local to Me, the solution is quite simple: the offender is not invited back to the dungeon. However, if the behavior happens remotely, I have no problem calling the little rats out publicly (as I have shown previously, most notably here and here). Funny enough, the French boy I have called out in both of the mentioned posts has yet again proved himself to be very disappointing. And as I previously warned him, another misstep and I will drop it like it's hot. But his behavior has been so disappointing that I cannot even be bothered to put up his personal information. All I can do is let other Dominants know that this Parisian schoolteacher is a pathetic little whore who cannot follow directions. I woke up in a good mood this morning, and so I will not be exposing is face for the world to see... at least not today. Let's hope My mood doesn't shift in the next few hours. For now, enjoy My stoic face while he wanks and fingerfucks himself for the world... right in his mother's house!
English Translation: I'm sorry, dear Mika. Did you want Me to remove this picture? Maybe even the video, or the other pictures I have collected? Then you can do so by showing you have some use in this world: take a look at My wishlist and find a gift suitable for a real Man, and I will consider returning your anonymity to you.
Ah. I love it when boys disobey and find themselves realizing that I do not play games. Life can be so hard, sometimes. Not for Me. For them.
I am happy to say that I am FINALLY in the process of rendering My videos out, starting with a nice piece I've named "Kiddo's First Checkup." The reason editing has been taking so long is due to the fact that I shoot on a dead format, and access to computers that still take said format is limited. Add that to the fact that FCP10 has trouble running on said older machines, and things are taking way longer than they should. Once these files are finally done, I will run them by the proper channels, collect My 2257s, and upload them. Be sure to keep an eye out for previews and updates! Since I still don't have one ready, I have chosen to quell your hunger for pain with these six screenshots from "Kiddo's First Checkup." These are not part of the final stills collection, just ones I captured during editing. Enjoy!
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