My Birthday Week is Going Swimmingly...

I'd like to think that I kicked off My birthday week with Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, and will be closing with a weekend of personal fun between events, as I share My birthday with My lover, one day apart.

That's right. His birthday is on Friday, while Mine is on Saturday. I wanted to stop in briefly for a couple of photos and ramblings. Last week ended with an email from San Diego from a boy just begging to be manipulated. I took his credit card shopping for a couple new things for Saturday's Philadelphia Leather Pride Night, where I manned a table for the upcoming Diabolique Ball 2014: Viva La Revolution! The second floor of Voyeur was turned into Der Karneval Diabolique, where I awaited with Goddess Thain to beat you up and tie you down! The stations were there to raise awareness for Diabolique, coming up on November 21st. I will be performing at this annual charity ball with Iris Enchanted to bring you a sexy look at the French Revolution... Marie Antoinette thinks she can sit in Versailles all day as the people of France starve... Well, we'll show her!

I also wanted to show off the following two books I picked up at the silent auction of PLPN, A first edition of Jon Jacobs, William D. Brame, and Gloria Brame's Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission as well as a first edition of The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. Huzzah! I always approve of new books for My collection of fetish and BDSM reading. I've been considering adding new ones to My wishlist, such as this little gem. Snagged that one off someone's private wishlist... that's why you don't give your passwords to strangers.

I've been somewhat reclusive for the past month or so, and have been relatively occupied. I still have more to do. Changes, projects, classes. Starting in December, I will be running My Intro to Rope class every 3rd Saturday of the month at Kink Shoppe, seeing how there is a high demand for it. I really want to present at SEXx 2015, but have not handled a large room for a class as a presenter, and am not yet confident in My ability to lead a course on bondage for more than 15 people at a time. So perhaps next year. :-D

I am meeting with a potential new video boy this upcoming week. Should the meeting go well, hopefully new videos will be on the way. Since I have been busy with other things, and the few shoot I have scheduled cancelled, My Clips4Sale store has fallen into disrepair. Hopefully, some new clips will be put up soon. I have a lot of ideas, and since I'm a little bit strange, I was thinking of exploring some of the more interesting fetishes out there, from macrophilia to immurement fantasies. I'm still looking to edge a bound superhero in a lycra bodysuit and alien impregnate a twink, so if you'd be interested, dear reader, why not shoot Me a message, hm?

The next week is going to be pretty be interesting and fun. And why not make it extra fun for Me? It is My birthday, after all, and birthdays are supposed to be a good time. So why not go on and head over to My wishlists and take a look? I have one for all the playthings I want, one for books of all sorts, one for underwear, boots, and other clothes, and a random one, just because. So you are going to head over to one of them, and find something you think I could particularly use. Hell, there's even priority items. And you're going to have something sent to Me, perhaps with a little note wishing Me a happy birthday. It is after all, a momentous occasion.

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My November schedule can be found here.
My birthday is on Saturday (Wish Me a Happy Birthday).

Suspension Night is next Friday.

Diabolique Ball 2014 is next Friday.

The Diabolique Brunch is next Saturday.

The Philadelphia Professional Dominants Brunch is next Sunday.

The Part You Throw Away

Apologies to those of you who have been worried. My life has gone completely upside down in the past week or so.

I pondered how to write something that would be clear, concise, and express exactly what I feel while protecting Me and Mine. I have not come up with a proper way of doing so.

In the past week, I have been physically assaulted as well as extorted  for over $1700 by My psychotic ex-roommate. Now, fairly, I did owe him some $850. However, the OTHER $850 come from the inability of this individual to take no for an answer.

I admit it, I stuck My dick in crazy. Funny, isn't it? I champion not sticking your dick in psychos, yet that is exactly what I did. And when I told psycho that I was not interested in him in a romantic sense, that's when shit started going down.

It all started with a phone call last Saturday, when attending a private event. Truly, the discomfort had started earlier in the week, but that's when I was faced with an ultimatum. One that I was fine with, but that forced Me to put a deadline down on monies owed. I was confident that I could come to an agreement with this crazy motherfucker. Turns out that when things got physical between us and he threatened My livelihood, as well as the life of one of My play partners and My One, I knew I had to leave, even if I didn't have an immediate place to go.

And that´s what I did. The entire situation was not only becoming psychologically and physically dangerous, but was simply getting worse by the second. I left without knowing where I would sleep that night. So right now, I am in an extremely twisted situation. I am still taking sessions, although not same-day appointments until further notice. Additionally, I will not be updating this blog or My profiles much in the next couple of weeks, perhaps even a month. I have given My website an update, including the events I will be attending, as well as My seasonal specials, but that will likely be how it remains for the rest of the month.

I will be doing bondage demos all day on July 6th, during Old City District's Inside Out. Come enjoy yourself throughout the day, and then join Me at 4:30 PM for a mini workshop: Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex. I will also be be joined by Echo, of EchosFire.com, who will be doing fire massage demonstrations. He will also be running his own workshop, "Art of the Fire Massage" at 7 PM.

Be sure to stop by and make Me smile, I need it.

Here are a few pointers to close things off:

1.) Don't stick your dick in crazy, much less codependent, drug-addicted crazy.
2.) When offered things of any sort, refuse them. Before you know it, you're running a tab you were unaware of.
3.) Don't stick your dick in crazy.
4.) Remember Micah 7:5 - Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.
5.) Don't stick your dick in crazy.
6.) Never forget when your loved ones are threatened. When they are, keep that close to your heart, even if your vengeance takes years to exact. Nobody touches what is Mine and gets away with it. Not for long, anyway. Tee hee!
7.) Don´t stick your dick in crazy.
8.) When the person you live with calls you an amoral sociopathic heathen, it's time to go. If they've told you that they are sending friends to drive-by your home every hour, you are too late.
9.) Don't stick your dick in crazy!!

And because no post is complete without at least a pretty picture, here is one of a recent Asylum 13. The handsome young man on the right is Echo, in fact. As of late, he's been coming to events with Me and offering his service (since I'm usually running around like a headless chicken). If you see us out together, be sure to chat him up about his excellent fire massage services! Seriously, the fellow is talented.

PS: Regarding My situation, anyone who asks Me face to face will be provided with full description and stats if they wish, to avoid the crazy fucker I just left. Trust Me, it's way easier to fall for his bullshit than you'd think. I'm the second person he's done this to in the past couple months. The first had to file a police report, and from what I understand, still does not have her property back.

Financial Domination (repost 09/11/12)

As you already know from My first post, My Tumblr account was shut down just recently. I am trying to get it back up, but I have little faith in Tumblr, and so I quickly decided to repost all of the major articles and writings that I have a backup for right here on My BlogSpot, so that newcomers may read them if they choose to. 

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As I recently mentioned, I’ve taken a page out of Goddess Pandora’s book, and her private profile has something written on it that struck a chord in Me. Since I’ve been recently asked about it, here are My thoughts on financial domination.

I’ve slightly modified the writing to reflect My own beliefs:

Financial domination isn’t about giving Me your extra money. It’s about going without so you can tribute to Me. It’s about putting Me first, because you appreciate Me and wish to be attentive to My needs.
You don’t make Me comfortable after you are comfortable. You make Me comfortable instead of yourself. You must go without comforts as a reminder of your service to Me. I revel in your discomfort… as much as I revel in your gifts.

This struck a chord in Me, because she explains it quite eloquently. And so, I wish to add some thoughts of what I personally believe.

Too often do I see a young, stunning Domina act like a complete bitch and hide under the veil of “financial Dominant.” A very well-known online foot Goddess revels in just that attitude. Her entire site is dedicated to insulting people, claiming She is way too fabulous to talk to any of these “losers,” and that people should pay their ugly tax, loser tax, and a whole bunch of other things for her because She’s just so great. She shows no respect to the attention given to Her.

For Me, financial domination is very simple: it has nothing to do with taking your money. I believe that financial domination is about controlling your assets, which is a different thing. You will give Me your money because you honor Me, not because I’m taking it from you. In exchange, I will manage where your expenses go to entertain Myself, and you will secondarily benefit from My pleasure.

I do not demand tribute because “I’m just so fucking fabulous.” I demand tribute because My time is My own, and I am a busy human being. Tributing Me shows that you are willing to go without in exchange for My time. It shows you are understanding that My seeing you is a time that I specifically spend with and dedicate to you, and for that, you wish to compensate and thank Me. And when you do, it does not go unnoticed.

A fictional example: A slave comes to Me for training. I’m already dedicating My time to training and teaching them, and they chooses to tribute Me in exchange. I could go two ways: I could demand extra tribute for My time, as it extends beyond session, and use said tribute freely for My wants. Or I could demand that they set it aside, and entrust My wants directly to them.

But only one of these two options establishes a full control.

What if they wishes to learn formal tea service? I surely will not entrust My personal set to a slave who may be clumsy. They must bring Me one of suitable quality to work with. How about extended chastity training? Should I have to go without My device for the likes of a boy? That would be preposterous.

On top of this, now that I am dedicating My time to them, should I have to place the additional burden or strain of having to go get the item Myself? Then they are lazy in their desires.

What if they were a boot worshipper who enjoy seeing regular images of My boots between sessions? I’m fully entitled to say “Give Me $50 a week for the privilege of talking to Me out of session, pig.”

I don’t want to do that.

I want to be able to one day down the line say “Today, I want these boots, and you are going to buy them for Me.” And then they would do so, and would have the privilege of spending time with Me and the boots.

It’s also about making yourself feel happy when you make Me happy. It’s not about Me getting things because I’m just so cool. There is power exchange.

A visitor who brings Me something is a visitor who will often see that something used to My pleasure. And if My pleasure is their pleasure… why would they deny themselves?

Should a financially dominated submissive pay for My electricity bill if I demand it from them? Here’s the thing. I wouldn’t demand it from them. Of their own accord, they should want to simplify and improve My life.

When I force them… it is extortion.