I am Sir Brian, professional and lifestyle Dominant in Philadelphia, PA. Welcome to Wicket Wanderlust II, where you can find sessions stories, video previews, community information, and insight into the world of BDSM. This blog and connected site are 18+ only, kinky, LGBTQ-friendly, sex-positive and probably non-vegan. Experience service at BrianOfthelost.com
My calendar has been updated for October. I notice that I often fail to post updates here, but know that the Upcoming Events page on My website has a full schedule posted every month.
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - Philly Trans* March
Saturday, October 10th, 2015 - The Aviary
Sunday, October 11th, 2015 - Old City Fest
Thursday, October 15th, 2015 - So You Think You're Kinky
Friday, October 16th, 2015 - Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - Picking Up the Ropes: Intro to Rope Bondage
Saturday, October 17th, 2015 - From Harness to Hogtie: Intermediate Rope Bondage
So you want to get out there and meet other kinksters. That's great!
There are two types of kink-curious people I speak to. The first type isn't part of the "lifestyle." They aren't particularly interested, are in a vanilla relationship, don't have the time, or have one-off interests. Some simply prefer no involvement and want to just do the occasional "crazy thing." Other prefer to treat their play as one would a therapy session, as a complete reset of their brain. To these folks, I recommend private sessions and/or training with a professional Dominant of repute. Most people who have the equipment and skills to deliver a powerful experience will rarely play with a stranger, much less an inexperienced one, as a one-off. They want to form some form of connection or relationship with their bottom in order to know them better. Professional Dominants, on the other hand, tend to be personable, adept at character reading, and skilled in their art and safety practices. Most of us do this because we love it: we love sharing our skill with new people, we enjoy the very wide variety of energies that flow in our dungeons, and we revel in learning about how the minds of other work.
The second type of kink-curious people I speak to are those who are more lifestyle-oriented. They actively have a desire to foster their interests and mold them as part of them. Some of them desire a D/s relationship, others are drawn to the community aspect of BDSM, and some just like having new life experiences. To these folk, I encourage them to join community events, classes, and local groups. I often get contacted online by people who want to "join," as if this was some kind of club; and every now and then, someone comes to My dungeon who would fare better as a lifestyler, but doesn't know where to start besides Me. I always start by pointing them out to the same resources. This writing is for you.
A common thing to do if you want to learn more about your local community is to join FetLife. FetLife is the internet's leading BDSM social network. It is very much reliant on events and group discussions, and is best for folks who want to learn and participate in talks about the lifestyle. It often is the first thing newcomers do. Fetlife is not a site for hooking up, cruising, or finding partners. Although those things do happen, the vast majority of people on FetLife are actively involved with other people, be it romantically or otherwise. The site is not even really formatted for that. Folks who join up thinking they will find some quick kinky sex will be very disappointed. Not only will they not find it, but their ape-like approached is often mocked on several different boards. So how do you use it then? Simple: fill out a profile, place a sensible picture of yourself up (that means no cockshots, fellas!), and go to the Groups section. Type in the name of your area to find local discussions. In the case of Philadelphia, there are several groups, including Philly TNG, Philly Friends, and The Aviary Philly, all which cater to the locals. Join some interest groups... I am a member of Gay Male Sadists and Masochists, Sacred Pain, and Destiny's Chamber to name a few. Read. Participate. This is how you learn things.
If you want some social interaction, but don't think you wanna "get kinky" right away, look into coming to a munch. A munch is a monthly social gathering for food and drinks, often at a diner or cafe. No leathers, no whips, just people getting together, eating, and catching up with each other. It's low key, and usually very welcoming. Larger metropolitan areas tend to have interest-specific munches. Here in Philadelphia, we have the Philadelphia TNG Munch (aimed at kinksters 18-35), The Aviary Munch (a good place for attendees and friends to get together and maybe make plans for the upcoming party?), and the Dress to Thrill Munch (that link has more!), just to name a few.
Perhaps you've done a couple of munches, and you want to move on. Maybe the munch setting isn't really for you and you are curious about what the hell this "play" I keep going on about really is. Well, then it's time to jump in and come to a play party! There's always a party happening somewhere. Dress up or dress down, bring your toys or just come to watch, parties are good public environments to meet others kinksters and watch them play and engage in BDSM together. Now, parties are not pick-up grounds or cruising fields. Most public parties are not sex-positive, and require you keep your genitalia covered. However, there are also many private parties that are sex-positive, and where anything goes. If you intend to go to a party, please remember to mind your etiquette. Be sure to read the rules of the event, be respectful of others and their space, and don't touch things that aren't yours without asking (things and people). Please do not interrupt scenes (you can ask questions before or after) or leer creepily at something you find interesting. Polite observation is fine. These are safe spaces, and any harassment or discrimination will not be tolerated. Philadelphia's main BDSM play party is The Aviary, held every second Saturday at the William Way Center, in the heart of Center City. If you come to the Aviary, be sure to look for Goddess Thain or Myself and say hello! We always take time to chat newcomers up and answer questions.
Is education more of your thing? Do you have your theory, but don't know where to get your practical? Going to classes is a great way to sharpen your skills and meet others who share your interests. There are all types of classes, from "seminar-style" talks, to hands-on lessons, to demos, to skillshares. They run the gamut of prices and interests, and many classes in larger cities are taught by both national and international presenters, allowing for a great deal of knowledge to be passed. Here in Philadelphia, classes are mainly organized by Passional and the Kink Shoppe. Both stores have their class schedules up on their websites. Now, for a bit of shameless self-promotion, I am doing a few classes this month (imagine that!). Next Monday, I will be hosting AndroShare: Mummification at Passional. AndroShare is a monthly skillshare for male-identified folk where we just sit around and talk about experiences with different things, and demo how to do some of those things. This month, we'll be focusing on mummification! Then, the weekend of the 19th is a rope intensive extravaganza, starting with Suspension Night @ Kink Shoppe on Friday, and followed by my rope 101 and 201 classes respectively, Picking Up the Ropes on Saturday, and From Harness to Hogtie on Sunday. As with all of My events, you can see a detailed listing right on My schedule page.
I see it very often this last method these days, and I approve. Some folks just want to dive in and get a full immersion experience. They see an ad online, or maybe are fresh arrivals to FetLife and see a group post, and a week later, they are attending a weekend event. The experience, although amazing, can be sometimes overwhelming for first-timers. These large, regional events are incredible places to meet kinksters from all walks of life, learn from top-notch presenters, shop from quality independent vendors, and experience the community like never before. One of My first outings was FetFest 2011, and I remember it fondly as an amazing, transformatory time. Many of these, such as The Floating World and Dark Odyssey happen out of state, the two just mentioned in New Jersey and Maryland, respectively. They can be quite pricey, so make sure to get early ticket, or to apply to volunteer for the events if you are a bit tight on cash. These weekend-long extravaganzas tend to include a hotel with well-priced room, and are very fun. Anyone going to them walks out with something, be it new friends, new skills, or new toys.
So there you are, five ways you can meet kinksters in your local community. It is often easy to forget that what may seem common sense to us kinksters is confusing and new to folks who are just coming into this. So I thought it would be good to answer the questions I am perpetually asked in one long writing. It was once expressed to Me such: There are some 10,000 kinksters in the Philadelphia area metropolitan area, and only about 1,000 participate in lifestyle events. This is not because the other 90% don't wish to participate (though I'm sure about half of them don't), but mainly because they don't know how to start. Of course, I cannot vouch for those numbers, but they look pretty accurate to a local.
There is incredible power in community, because in community there is there is knowledge and compassion. I look back at before when My journey started, and think of all the people I have met since then, and how I felt such connection with them. I went through a very rough patch last year, and when I thought I had lost everything and nowhere to go, I still had this community, who propped Me back up and helped Me out. And I wonder, how many people out there have no-one. Or are trapped in a life that they feel is not their own. And I remember loneliness.
I suppose that's My reason for this. I want to tell people who are scared, or worried, or hesitant "Come out! It's OK. There is family here" and open a door to all of this, giving people tangible links and examples. I didn't have it, and it's the question I hear most often: "Where can I meet others?" Well, here are some solutions. Take notice of them, and when you feel ready, step through those doors and come out to play.
Hope to see you out there!
--- My schedule for September can be found here. The TNG Munch is tomorrow. AndroShare: Mummification is next Monday. The Aviary Munch is next Tuesday.
My calendar has been updated for September. Here are the events currently listed for this month. Clearly, subject to change and additions. The full schedule is available on My website.
The Aviary was this Saturday, and I was in a shitty headspace. However, I have Goddess Thain to thank for pulling Me out of it with some 50 needles. Pictures coming soon.
OutFest 2013 was possibly one of the funnest times I've had recently. I arrived at Bazaar on Quince around 12:45 or so, and immediately started pulling out toys for some public play.
I got some pretty kick-ass pictures:
Towards the end of the afternoon, I was approached by Swedish blogger Gustav Andersson (from TheModernNomad.com) who shyly asked Me for a bit of play and a suspension. He was incredibly handsome and very sweet, so I obliged. At the time he approached Me, the frame was in use by Logical Paradox, so I pre-rigged him and asked him what he was interested in. After some light discussion on his interests, I did a little bit of light sensation play, which quickly graduated into some nipple torture. Having talked of his mild CBT interests, we moved on to binding his hands above his head and behind his back. Then, I pulled out My viper tongue, a nasty cross between a singletail whip and a dragon tail. I mercilessly hit him below the belt, and when I had driven him to his limit... I made him count down his ten final hits. He did so in that incredibly sexy Swedish language of his. We took a short break, and then I strung him up in an inverted suspension, where I continued to play with My claws and knives.
Playing with Gustav was a wonderful experience. The intensity of the scene was way up there, and we were being watched by a decently sized crowd. I was blessed to have Jackman and Pajaro Libre around, as they took some incredible pictures:
After the scene, I did some aftercare (mega thanks to Emrys for bringing him a blanket and a Peanut Chew). I was taken by surprise with how subdued he was, and how he held on tightly to Me. Aftercare is a very important part of play for Me, and always strikes Me strangely when I am in a setting where it is needed but not provided. I cannot play properly with a bottom, and will often deny play altogether, if I cannot provide them with aftercare. I have noticed that aftercare is often forgotten in the BDSM community, and even more so in the gay BDSM community. This saddens Me a great deal, as it is an essential part of play. I cannot speak for him, but it seemed that Gustav was almost surprised that I took time out to make sure he was OK and safe after his scene. He even told Emrys, when she brought him blanket and carbs, that "you guys really know how to care for a sub." Yay for all the feels.
I had an amazing time. Thank you all of you who came to OutFest, and anyone who came to My station for a little fun. I will definitely be back at the next pride event representing some BDSM love!
On to some other things:
Tomorrow is Asylum 13. YAY! Expect to see some Vines and more rope fun! Be sure to come down to Mojo 13 if you want to hear some hot beats and have some kinky fun!
Friday is Suspension Night at the Kink Shoppe! This is a great chance to come watch and/or experience rope suspension in a friendly, public environment. I will be there all night, as I tend to be, so be sure to come on up and talk to Me. Apparently, a secret source tells Me there will be cookies.
Next week is when you really want to be available, though...
Friday, October 25th, I am teaching Picking Up the Ropes, My introductory class to rope bondage.
The next day, Saturday 26th, is the Halloween Madness Masquerade Ball down at Mojo 13 again. There will be some awesome music, including Aesthetic Perfection, Nekronet, Die Sektor, Venal Flesh, and other wild industrial craziness. Come up and check out My awesome Halloween costume!
Finally, Sunday 27th, I will be back at the Kink Shoppe to teach My intermediate rope bondage class, From Harness to Hogtie. Come learn how to get kinky with some rope!
The links to the three events above lead to pages where you can read more about them and purchase advance tickets. Remember, you can always check what My upcoming events are on the Upcoming Events page of My website, or on My FetLife group!
Between the events and meets I have been going to, I've had little time to update this blog, but it's time!
As usual this month, I have been going to Asylum 13, the Aviary (both the munch and the play party), and My usual Suspension Night on third Fridays. Remember that if you want to come meet Me at an event, a full schedule of them can be found on My website, on the Upcoming Events page.
The Aviary was particularly fun. I shaved My boy Stitch's head down and then watched him get his first needles by Goddess Thain. I am so happy to see that he is getting more involved in the community, and am proud of all the steps he has been taking recently. I also got a chance to do some needle play Myself on Leggatt, who can handle some extremely brutal pain. The result (twelve 18G needles stacked) is the picture above.
For those of you who follow My Facebook or Twitter, you have already seen many of the things that have happened this month. A pig was planning to set up a session with Me, but after checking with friends in the medical profession, he had to reschedule. He felt pretty bad about not being able to come and having taken up a couple of hours of My time planning, and as a gift of apology, he sent Me two gift. I am now the proud owner of a new Birdcage device, as well as a pound of Lapsang Souchong. The latter is a fine smoked tea from the Fujian province, and absolutely delicious. After having left London, I thought I would not really have a chance to drink any quality Lapsang, but this good pig spotted the bag listed on My Wishlist and sent it to Me. He did very well, and is welcome to contact Me to arrange for his session once he fully recovers. And the chastity device is wondrous, as I do tend to know some very well-endowed boys who do not fit in My CB-6000.
I have also come into contact with David Barton-Jay, kinkster and author of the beautiful book "The Enema as an Erotic Art and Its History." Mr. Barton-Jay kindly gifted Me a copy of his wonderful work, and I have been reading it intently. The book is truly beautiful and detailed, full of exciting stories, informative facts, and fine pictures detailing enemas as a practice throughout history. I highly recommend this volume to all fans of erotic enemas. There are less than seventy five copies of its third and final printing remaining, and so I strongly suggest you get one before it disappears completely. You will not be disappointed. In fact, I was reading it earlier, and Stitch took a very sexy picture of Me doing so. I found it a fitting thank you to the author, as well as a sexy hello to you, reader.
Other things have also happened, but this entry was to remind you of My upcoming classes. And so, here are said friendly reminders!
This Friday (September 27th) at 7 PM I will be teaching a spanking class. Curious about spanking? Come to this great intro class at the Kink Shoppe (126 Market Street) which will cover all of your basics, as well as some paddling. Are you an aspiring spanking Top? Bring your bottom and follow along! Are you a bottom that is curious about spanking? Stay to see how a properly spanked rear should look and feel! It is highly recommended you bring a partner to this class if you'd like to get some spanking practice in. I will be presenting with Mathamatic as My demo bottom, but will also have Katts and Cherry as "stunt asses" for anyone wanting to practice directly on a rear end, should they not have brought one with them. Both of these individuals are skilled spankees, and have kindly volunteered their time to make sure everyone gets some spanking in. What's that you say? You want to get spanked but do not wish to pair up with another workshop attendee? I will also be available to spank anyone coming, after class. You can get your tickets here, and you can let us know if you are coming through either Facebook or FetLife.
The following morning, Saturday September 28th, I will be at the Philadelphia Slut Walk. I am a fierce proponent of consent, and despise the rape and slut shaming culture of the times. If you strongly agree with these sentiments, I recommend you join Me at 11 AM in LOVE Park.
Finally, My most popular classes are back! Rope 101 and Rope 201 will be held on Friday October 25th and Sunday October 27th, respectively. Mark your calendars, and use the links on My Upcoming Events page to read more about them and purchase your tickets early. These two events are also listed on Facebook and FetLife, so hit them up if you are coming.
Tonight, I will be at the Bike Stop for a Philadelphians MC meeting, and tomorrow is a long day of shooting new Clips4Sale with the sexiest twink alive, Katts. Expect to see some flogging, spanking, and all of the sexy. If you are already a customer of My C4S studio, I will be sending you a personalized update log as soon as updates are ready!
PS: It looks like I may be getting a new computer soon, which means a drastic improvement on updates, especially photography, C4S, and blog. Hooray!
PPS: Oh, I almost forgot. I updated My specials for Autumn! Your first hour of needle play with Me at the dungeon can be reduced to $150 all the way through December 20th! Also, if you wish for a spanking, I have extended My out-call special as well: one hour spanking out-calls are available at the very reduced rate of $100! Hooray for red asses!
I am finally back from FetFest 2013, and have decompressed at My boy Stitch's house for the past couple of days. I am ready to blog, yay!
Dungeon crew is no joke, folks, let Me tell you. Moving a gigantic truck of play furniture from North Jersey down to Maryland was quite an endeavor, and I'd like to say thank you to the entire team who made it possible. It was grueling, but in the end, I think we did awesome.
FetFest 2013 was, as usual, an amazing experience. However, it seems some changes in the management structure caused quite a bit of distress and complications for many people. However, this is not the place for Me to talk about that, and I'd like to focus on the amazing experiences of this weekend. After a long and setup all day Friday, I headed down to the pool with My friend Kitty, where we had a water bondage interrogation. Having hot really enjoyed My time at MataLeao's skill share at Floating World 2013, I decided to apply some of the principles I picked up and combine them with My love of card games and knife play. I allowed Kitty some time to swim away, and then chased her down, knife in teeth. Once she was tied in a hogtie, I proceeded to "vigorously question" her on a prenegotiated secret, and managed to get the information I wanted in some 20 minutes. Our play was slightly interrupted by the full-body fire ignitions, which had been moved to Friday night, unbeknownst to Me. I did not return to the fire this year, as I had the past two, but I greatly enjoyed My time in the pool, and watching other do so. Many newcomer participated, and it was thrilling to see so many naked people catch flame.
Briefly after My scene, I headed up to the main dungeon space where I had a date with master cutter Zebrianna, who proceeded to carve a design of a xenomorph into My right thigh. I will not lie: the first pass was pretty bearable, but the second one was hard. The rubbing of alcohol into the wound, followed immediately by cigar ash (a chemically cauterizing agent) was some of the most unbelievable pain I have ever experienced, and all of the insults flew out of My mouth. Apparently, this was quite hysterical to many. The image on the left is a photograph taken Tuesday night (day 3 of healing) by My boy, after My shower and irritant scrub.
My Saturday was spent mostly relaxing and socializing while in hot pants and a cape, as well as introducing a newbie to pain in the early afternoon, and scening with the beautiful PJ in the evening for some catharsis. The night, however, was when I had to do My first irritant scrub on My cutting. For those unaware of how cutting mods work, this involves scrubbing an open wound with lemon, sea salt, and a toothbrush. I was advised to have a spotter in the shower, as the pain could lead to fainting. I had two spotters, and I'd like to take time to thank the two young ladies who helped Me during an hour and a half. I thought that the cigar ash was bad? I was a fool. I really do think at least a third of the camp either saw Me or heard Me yowling like My flesh was being ripped off. I was on the floor most of the time, as My leg refused to carry Me the second the salty lemon scrub hit the cuts. I have at least 20 minutes of lost time from that experience. I want to warn anyone who is interested in a cutting: your first scrub will be pain beyond all belief. You have been warned. The night ended with some bondage and knifeplay with the extremely bratty Kobal. In fact, he pissed Me off so much with his mouthiness, that I told him to meet Me the next day in the dungeon for a strapon hatefuck.
My Sunday was spent tanning, socializing some more, and running around with Django (My black rubber 10-inch strapon) sticking out of My pants. I did have a lovely time covering a woman with at least half a gallon of hot wax with her Dominant husband. In the late evening, I changed into My more usual priest-inspired suit wear so I could meet up with Kobal (who coincidentally looks a lot like what white people think Jesus looked like). We had some hot fun, which ended up actually turning very different from what we thought it would be. I will not detail too much out of respect for his privacy, but suffice it to say that it turned into a pretty interesting psychological deconstruction.
All in all, it was a wonderful time. My only regrets were missing the full-body fire this year, and missing the closing ritual at Primal Arts (I justified not going for the yearly ordeal sacrifice with My cutting... that was ordeal enough). I cannot wait for next year.
Dungeon crew packed up all day Monday, and we returned to normalcy late that night. A huge thanks to everyone who made this weekend possible, from BLP, to the Black Phoenix crew, to Mordona and the medics, and everyone else I interacted with . These events are what we make of them, and this year was amazing as always. Who's awesome? All of you are awesome.
Back in the normal world, I have placed on the boy Stitch a collar of consideration. This being done, we will see how he grows in his submission in the next year, and what will happen then. He has been invaluable in My stability and it is thanks to him that I have been more productive than I thought I would be. And of course, I can rely on him to stave off all the con-drop with bagels and blowjobs. Congratulations, boy.
And now, back to the grind! Back to school coincides with a good bit of workshops for Me. More info on these is available on My Upcoming Events page, on My website. The following workshops/demos will be taking place at the Kink Shoppe, at 126 Market Street in Philadelphia:
As promised, here is My preview video for "Katts is Bound and Tickled (Sir Brian's POV)." I will be uploading the finished videos to My Clips4Sale in the next 24-48h, as well as the feeding video preview, so be sure to check them out!
Also, I have opened My Vine account, where I am bored and hysterical. You can access My Vine through My Twitter account, as I use the same username. Enjoy six seconds of fun every now and then.
That's it for now, folks. This is Sir Brian, signing off.
I'm sorry. I can't help Myself. I had to come back. I couldn't leave you all without My annoyingly verbose updates. How would you survive? *wink*
Things are very slowly returning to normalcy. Thanks to all of the people who have reached out to Me in support of this nutty period of My life. I should be back to normal operating status by the end of the month! I'm still not taking same-day in-calls to the dungeon, but I will take 24h advance notice for them. Meanwhile, My out-calls remain available on a same-day notice.
First things first, thank you to everyone who showed to My Bedroom Rope: Bondage for Sex class, as well as My all-day demos for InsideOut Old City. Mega-thanks to My amazing demo bottom, suspension bunny, and amazing PR goddess, Marthamatic, as well as to anyone who came out for this fun day! Here are some delightful pictures to entertain you!
No wonder I get branded as the "rope guy" everywhere I go. If there are ever too many pictures of Me doing something, it's probably suspending people. I can't help it!
I am also blessed to have some wonderful friends and play partners who always keep a smile on My face when I am down. It is thanks to them that I have not lost My smile.
In fact, I just recently received a visit from My friends Kara, Nevaahe, and Stark. We have not seen each other since 2006, and seeing them was an amazing experience. It's true that we make few friends in our short time on this Earth. I am happy to count these three among Mine. Sadly, a picture is not the best thing I could put up, seeing how I'd have to blur all faces due to sensitive vanilla-related issues. Still find it quite funny that we were friends back when we were 13-14, and now we're all kinky, and still friends. Great minds think alike!
I also have to thank Katts, who lets Me beat him mercilessly at Asylum 13 every week (except for last night, which made Me sad faced... more on that later), an activity which brings Me an immense amount of psychological well-being. Some three weeks ago, the wonderful Rhino Photography, lead photographer of the event, took some truly amazing shots of a shared scene with Gabriel Drax. Here are a few of My favorites:
I'm not sure Katts knows how grateful I am to him and his girlfriend for letting Me do all this with him. As I have mentioned, we were in the process of negotiating some video work a while back, and I am happy to say that I indeed will be filming with him, hopefully two or three scenes by the end of the month. So yay! I need to remember to control My play though. I get a little overenthusiastic sometimes, which is exactly why his girlfriend punished him and didn't let him play with Me this week. What can I say, I got a little out of hand last week:
See that face? That's masochistic ecstasy, right there.I had a stupid grin on My face for at least five days. And he had a nasty scratch on his stomach, courtesy of My bear claws. And apparently, the crucifix scratch in his chest just faded a couple of days ago. Whoopsy tootsy!
So I was going to have a little more fun last night, but then he informed Me (very cutely, may I add) that his girlfriend was a bit miffed at how hard I went on him last week, and didn't want us playing this week. That's more of a punishment on Me, dammit!
Add to the fact that I was supposed to see a visitor last night (the awesome plan involved Me locking up his cock, chaining him to the bed leg, and then sleeping in said bed while he remained on the floor), but he ended up falling asleep before I got there... and no play for Me. So I have been a bit out of My mind all day with sadistic ideas and generally kinky thoughts...
...which lead Me to consider running a nantaimori night sometime soon. Who doesn't enjoy naked men? Who doesn't enjoy sushi? Obviously, the combination of these two things would be quite perfect. I am not too shabby at sushi preparation, and this would be a lovely chance for Me to run a dinner-style event Myself, an idea which I've been toying with. And did I mention the naked men?
I already have lofty, unrealistic plans, so I guess things are working out after all. Stay tuned. Oh, and I'll be at The Aviary, tomorrow night. See you there, fellow kinksters!
So guess who had a very successful rope class? That's right, I did! Thanks to all who attended. I will definitely now do a 202 class for those who attended and those wishing to learn techniques above elementary rope. Here are a couple of pictures:
As My demo, I used the lovely and lithe Katts who was a wonderful sport, even when I teased him a bit. He did very good, and I am quite proud of him. We also discussed video work together and both him and his girlfriend seemed game, so keep your eye out for some hot clips featuring a lot of beating mixed with a good bit of this:
I'm such a horrible tease. And I'm going to fuck that beautiful skinny straight boy up. Look, doesn't My collar already look perfect on him?
By the way, if you've not gone either to the First Friday demo or the rope class, you are missing out. In fact, since Kink Shoppe is not too far from Me, I'm often there just hanging out and playing with Myself a good deal. I mean, BY Myself, excuse Me. In fact, I recently did a little compilation on YouTube of different people's Vine videos which I found and put together.
As you can see, you've been missing a lot of things.
Just last night, I went to the Bike Stop, where a gentleman was celebrating his 31st birthday. Because I always have My toys with Me when I go out, I gave him a sound birthday beating. However, I went past thirty-one, because the little painslut was really loving it. After 45, I realized that another few hits might have been more than he bargained for in the morning, so I did stop. I did have a great amount of fun though, and was complimented by a few nice gentlemen on My lovely form.
It did remind Me of something that I have mentioned repeatedly, although most FetLifers know this already: if I have not felt it first, I do not dish it. I will always bottom at least once to what I top with.
In fact, on very rare occasions, when things aren't going very well for Me in the great turmoil that is My brainmeats, I will seek peace and quietude by taking pain, usually in an unusual situation or setting. This is exactly what I did on Thursday at Asylum 13, when I suspended Myself upside down and blindfolded, and let Gabriel Drax, organizer and grand pasha of flogging, beat Me with his particularly nasty dragontail. The results, as can be seen on the left, were harsh (at least for Me, who does not enjoy pain per se). But what was nice was the bit of mental peace that followed. See? This is exactly what happens when you don't follow Me around: I get half naked and writhe about like sandtrout, and you have no clue until it's too late. Oh well.
So what has My brainmeats in turmoil? A couple things. First, the computer I have been using since My own computer exploded is going back to its rightful owner. I have been using it for four months now, and it has served Me very well, but all good things must come to an end.
I do own two other computers, so I will still be posting, booking sessions, and making Myself available regularly to answer questions and fill the internet with My babble, but that is not the issue:
In short, it looks like My fetish pornography empire is not going to be as prolific as I thought. It's always one step forward and two steps back. I'm getting really fucking sick of all this bullshit which interrupts My groove.
Let's also add to that issue the fact that some pretty pernicious rumors have been started about Me, which are causing Me strife and calling My morality and motives in question. So I'll speak to two people right now publicly:
To Individual Number One: If someone claims I said something, the correct action to do is to directly come to Me an confront Me like an adult. I have no interest in lying to anyone, as that take away from My well-known neutrality. It's what I have based My entire reputation on, so trust, it's not going to shift any time soon. Also, I have quite the way with words, and those who have taken even five minutes of their lives to know Me can easily distinguish things I say from things others claim I say. I also have no interest in shitting where I eat, by the way.
This next bit is to Individual Number Two, and had no bearing on what I said to Number One: If you decide that you are going to be a negative force trying to destroy Me (either because you do not like Me or are jealous of Me), be assured that I will find you. And I will ruin every bit of your life. Your very name will be a synonym for distrust, unfaithfulness, and damage; and I will make it My personal pleasure to make sure that your very existence as an agent of anything good is destroyed, even across oceans. And if you don't think that can happen, try Me, bitch.
Yelan abo taareesak to a good portion of the scene, by the way. Before speaking, be sure that My eyes and ears are not around. It's the least you can do before digging your own grave.
I had a lovely chat with Goddess Cleo earlier today, and while I stated I did not wish to return to England just yet, I'm now really considering it: I miss London a great deal. Now that was a place where people were honest and upfront, and where social standing was based purely on skill and knowledge, not who you rub elbows with or gossip about.
Now if you will excuse Me, I have a party to get ready for and attend.
What a wondrous week it all was. So here we demonstrate!
Asylum 13 saw Me hand over My suspension point to another rigger last Thursday. I had had a very busy day, one that also took a bit of a mental toll on Me, so I chose to not suspend people that evening, and chose to spend it with Katts, beautiful masochist and future star in one of My fetish films (I'd love a full-length with him). Pictures of said kink debauchery will be shown here when the photographers publish their next set of Asylum photos on Facebook. You should really be a fan of Asylum 13 of Facebook if you're not. That way, you could see all of them right when they come out!
I was less than pleased when First Friday turned to be an extremely rainy endeavor. I was however, overjoyed to see such a wonderful turnout of people braving the rain, as well as several volunteers. Thank you to Mistress Gwen Menace, and all who came to make this possible. Here's a very short video and a couple pictures:
Saturday night was The Aviary, and interestingly enough, I was not My usual swamped and scattered self. I had a great time with a newcomer to BDSM who had heard of Me and had come by to the event a couple of times before. I tied him up to the pillory and went to town... and I think even he will tell you it was quite a thrill.
Sunday was Philly Pride, and although I originally intended to march with the TNG group, My plans were disrupted by Kiddo and his partner, SF, who called Me an asked Me to come hang out with them. I must say, it was a most welcome distraction! Honestly, between hanging out with iCandy go-gos and playing with these two sexy maso-boys... well, I think the choice is simple.
I tied both of the boys together and has them use their strength to support each other through some sensory play and some corporal fun. It was very intense, particularly for Kiddo, and it lead to some great talk between them later during the day. See? I'm like therapy. Therapy that spreads your ass cheeks, flogs your back, and clamps your nipples.
I did make a brief stop in the Bike Stop for a drink on Sunday, but it was very brief. Last night, however, I went to meet a footslave early in the evening. We had a great chat. He bought Me a drink, and since I had been through a few busy days, I had him massage My feet in the middle of the bar. He did quite well. However, he did have to leave after a short while... but surprise surprise, I must be popular: he was quickly replaced by another boy who bought Me another drink, and quickly took over. This new boy however, showed a little less decorum, and found himself shirtless on the floor of the bar, one of My size 12W in his mouth, and the other in his hand. Hell, he was even sweet enough to lay back on the floor when I needed to get up, making a very effective trampling board.
Since he was a private fellow, I did not attempt to capture much on camera, but I got one pretty good picture of him rubbing one of My feet, while I teased him with the other. He was a handsome masochist, full of potential. His own life has led him a bit astray, but I hope his experience with Me last night will make him reconsider many of the choices he has taken, and will help him return to the place where he belongs, at a Dominant's feet. Yes, I'm totally expecting he is reading this, and will consider taking a new look at his life and where he wants to be. It's been missing for over 20 years, boy... don't you think it's time?
Finally, here is a VERY IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT:
Did you miss the introductory rope class I taught in April? Then you can come and take the same class (with some minor tweaks here and there) this upcoming Sunday at the Kink Shoppe! You can purchase the tickets online, and even let us know if you're attending on Facebook or FetLife!
The class will be on Sunday, June 16th 2013, from the hours of 7 PM to 9 PM. Tickets are priced at $25 if you get them in advance ($20 for seniors/students with ID or $45 for couples), and $30 on the day of. However, a little birdie told Me that if you are signed up to the Kink Shoppe e-mail newsletter, you get $5 off either price!
Again, it is highly suggested that you bring some rope, ideally one 30ft length as well as two 15ft lengths. However, there will be some practice rope available, and the store will be stocked with their own supply if you want to buy some. Their prices are excellent, and any purchase made on the day of the workshop will get you 10% off when you show your ticket (one-time use).
Come support Me and learn the foundations that will lead you down the path of rope. I will also be hanging around until closing after the course, so it's a good chance to chat Me up!
I am also soon going to be creating the follow-up classes, for those who want to learn the next level. Thinking the second course will be called "The Ladder, the Harness, and the Dragonfly: Using What You Know." Because I like fancy verbiage.
Did you know I am still without a home computer? No, you did not. But I am magical, which is how I keep these updates going.
I am happy to report that My Saturday rope class was a great success! Thank you to everyone who showed up. I hope you guys picked up the foundations you need to start out in the wonderful world of rope bondage. Special thanks to the Sexploratorium for their space and the kick-ass sign they made to advertise the class, pictured here on the left. Did you want to attend, but found yourself unable to due to time constraints? Not to worry, I will be hopefully running this class a couple more times for those who missed the first time.
Also, I'd like to thank My lovely partner in bondage, Mistress Gwen, who was so kind to let Me tie Her up in order to demonstrate to students how some things need to be tied. As usual, self-shot images of Me with a partner have us looking like raving maniacs. Which is why you love Us and want Us. I can understand that. I'd want Us too! For more info on Mistress Gwen, check out Her page on the Destiny's Chamber website by clicking on the link above. Her great sense of humor and infectious laughter will put you right as ease when you meet her... but Her unpredictable nature and deadly skill set will make even the most steadfast slaves tremble in fear.
In other news, I had a very stimulating session just yesterday with the same fellow who came to see Me a couple weeks ago... this time, we headed down the CBT and sounding route before I destroyed his ass with a nine-inch piece. This one is quite sizable, but why stop here. We will be sizing up the next time I see him... I'd love to eventually get him nice and stretched to a point where I can insert Biggie Smalls, my thick chocolate 14-incher, deep into his entrails. Mind you, I may destroy asses, but at least I do it while looking classy as fuck:
I am indeed one dapper gentleman, even while you are begging and moaning like a whore on the floor, your body pushed to it's limits as I extract sweet control from you.
Apparently, he thought so too, and brought Me a fun little toy that got to see a bit of action that evening: a steel ballcrusher! I know your boys are crawling up inside your body cavity, dear reader, when you take a look at this punishing tool. Ah, no matter. As anyone who has come to see Me can tell you, I might be a sadistic bastard, but you will come willingly.
A smile, a whisper, a kind touch... why would you not suffer the very depths of Hell itself to please Me? Do you think you can trek there alone? You must be quite brave... for in My hands I hold the keys to your darkest suffering and to your most blissful pleasures. And those who endure My trials are greatly rewarded at the finish line.
I am sure a few of you wonder what happens to those who do not endure My trials or please Me satisfactorily. If said behavior happens in the dungeon or local to Me, the solution is quite simple: the offender is not invited back to the dungeon. However, if the behavior happens remotely, I have no problem calling the little rats out publicly (as I have shown previously, most notably here and here). Funny enough, the French boy I have called out in both of the mentioned posts has yet again proved himself to be very disappointing. And as I previously warned him, another misstep and I will drop it like it's hot. But his behavior has been so disappointing that I cannot even be bothered to put up his personal information. All I can do is let other Dominants know that this Parisian schoolteacher is a pathetic little whore who cannot follow directions. I woke up in a good mood this morning, and so I will not be exposing is face for the world to see... at least not today. Let's hope My mood doesn't shift in the next few hours. For now, enjoy My stoic face while he wanks and fingerfucks himself for the world... right in his mother's house!
English Translation: I'm sorry, dear Mika. Did you want Me to remove this picture? Maybe even the video, or the other pictures I have collected? Then you can do so by showing you have some use in this world: take a look at My wishlist and find a gift suitable for a real Man, and I will consider returning your anonymity to you.
Ah. I love it when boys disobey and find themselves realizing that I do not play games. Life can be so hard, sometimes. Not for Me. For them.
I am happy to say that I am FINALLY in the process of rendering My videos out, starting with a nice piece I've named "Kiddo's First Checkup." The reason editing has been taking so long is due to the fact that I shoot on a dead format, and access to computers that still take said format is limited. Add that to the fact that FCP10 has trouble running on said older machines, and things are taking way longer than they should. Once these files are finally done, I will run them by the proper channels, collect My 2257s, and upload them. Be sure to keep an eye out for previews and updates! Since I still don't have one ready, I have chosen to quell your hunger for pain with these six screenshots from "Kiddo's First Checkup." These are not part of the final stills collection, just ones I captured during editing. Enjoy!
A couple of posts ago, I mentioned I will be teaching a beginner workshop in rope bondage at the Sexploratorium this Friday, at 7 PM. As I said, tickets can be purchased in advance for $20, or on the day of for $30 (five dollars off for students and affiliates).
As usual, things have been so hectic that I have neglected any blog posting in the past week and a half or so. So I am going to be filling you in backwards, because I am magical. So do keep up.
My Sunday was full of filming at Destiny's Chamber with a boy that we will tentatively call "Dean" for now. Dean and I had met once before and played once, and I definitely thought that he was a hot little slut, ripe for a little combo of pain and pleasure. We spend the day filming two scenes, one involving some evil electroplay and teasing, and the other a very hot prostate massage in bondage!
We barely finished that a visitor called to enquire for an evening session. Now, I am usually not available at the dungeon on Sundays, but since I was already here and dressed, and quite in the mood for some fun, I had no problem taking him a few hours later! After a sound spanking, I realized his closeted ass was getting excited by all of the action. A definite little slut, he was. I taught him a hard lesson with a nine inch piece which had him on the verge of tears. The yelps of pain and pleasure as his nipples were tortured by the meanest clamps while being rammed from behind were very humbling for him... and very satisfying for Me! I have a feeling he will be returning for another voyage into surreal depravity before long...
Sunday saw many weapons of ass destruction...
Saturday was also spend filming at the Chamber with an adorable twink boy with a tendency to cry... one you may have seen once or twice before around these parts! Finally, a suiting name, Kiddo is such a delight to play with. His tears bring such peace to Me, such inner satisfaction and quiet. And with all of those who share tears, I always do enjoy the quietude captured in the post-scene moment.
Thanks for catching these, Switch Samantha!
So, if I have been filming for a while now, where is all the footage? Well, I do like things to be planned and well-executed, and I am currently in the process of editing and transferring all of them onto a temporary drive. I'm reminding everyone that I'm still without My own laptop, am am working off friends' while the defective new one gets replaced. Seeing how I have not really selected the stills I want, or corrected them, you will simply have to do with these four "quickstills" I hastily and poorly captured (because after so much planning and announcing, it's about God-damned time you see something!)
Clockwise from upper left: Corporal with Kiddo, bound prostate massage with Dean, sounding and stimming Kiddo, and Dean held in bondage and tortured with electricity and CBT
These four videos will hopefully be ready with stills and preview clips in the space of a week to a week and a half. I have gotten quite busy in these past couple of spring weeks with life and future planning, and it looks like I will still be quite busy in the next couple as well.
Friday was spent yet again at the Chamber, where I helped the beautiful Dominas of the dungeon gain some new rope skills and techniques that are sure to delight and restrain! I personally like to have fun when teaching or learning new skills, and I was delighted to see that Miss Beni and Domina Noxx were of the same mindset as I! It's lovely to be surrounded by such lovely and charming creatures!
Of course, Thursday was, as usual, Asylum 13 night. All of the pictures can be found on My Facebook, courtesy of the wonderful Rhino Photography. As usual, I will be posting another suspensions video on My YouTube page. Subscribe to Me or friend Me if you don't want to miss a thing: each of My social networking sites have their own individual content posted on them!
The daytime hours of Tuesday through Thursday did see Me particularly unavailable, as I had other pressing matters to deal with... but that's generally how the week went. Now, on to the future! I will be attending a private party this Saturday, so will be unavailable for afternoon sessions. As we've discussed, videos and photos are on their way. But here is something much more interesting, and the best piece of news:
That's right folks, I will be teaching a beginner class in rope bondage at the Sexploratorium next week! Tickets can be purchased in advance for a mere $20, or on the day of for $30. Remember, if you are an affiliate or student, you get five dollars off! In this class, I'll present quick and simple techniques that can all be used together to place your partner in your preferred restrained position. This is a great chance to pick up a deceptively simple skill than can provide a lifetime of pleasure and exploration! So, will you be joining Me on April 5th, at 7 PM at the Sexploratorium, here in the heart of Philly? Respond on either FL or Facebook, and I will see you there!
Phew. As usual, this post was a tad long. What can I say, I keep quite busy and active in My local community. I find that the most precious thing that we can share as people is education and community: the BDSM subculture is thriving, and it's thanks to the tireless works of kinky folks that people can explore and grow in their fantasies and experiences in a safe and happy manner and among loving and supporting people. Isn't that what we all deserve?
Keep an eye out. A series of hot foot pictures will be coming soon, as long as punishment for a very disappointing boy from the other side of the Atlantic...
